contentious

We were going down I-82 and got behind a gas transport; this is what they had on the back of their truck! Soooo beware, I'm not hauling milk in this "It's Saturday."

Do any of you need to have the last word all the time? Do any of you always think you are right? Can you just not say anything when someone says something and let it be; ya don’t have to add to it or take anything away from it but just let it be? Do any of you just like to argue to just argue? I wonder if that is me sometimes, yes I do! I think I can be contentious at times. The most popular antonyms for contentious are words that mean peaceful, agreeable, or undisputed.

Napoleon was quoted as saying that people rise "by their adaptability to circumstances, not always being right.”

What are your favorite synonyms for contentious? There are some colorful ones. What is the one that comes to your mind first?  Isn’t there a song that goes like this—what ever you can do I can do better?

We were having breakfast at Pismo Bay one morning when on our trip. I asked our waiter what his name was—Markus, who was about 19—where did you get your name—my mom was a believer and my dad wasn’t, my mom wanted it to be Mark and my dad didn’t sooo they compromised. Soooo which way did you go—my dad’s, I don’t believe in Jesus as my savior but believe there was such a person; I went to Catholic school for12 years; I’m spiritual but not religious and I don’t worship in any church or use any certain method. We wish you the best Marcus—thank you, I appreciate it.

I saw this in a window of a costal beach trinket shop. It caught my attention. What does being “cheeky” mean I thought. Is that a positive or negative statement. Is this a contentious statement. Are we pretty cheeky?

Am I being contentious with you or even with myself in thinking this thought? When we have a visit with a friend or family member (e.g. have breakfast together) it is different when we are "one on one" instead of let’s say when there is another person with us? I think another person can change the whole expression of the relationship; it becomes watered down or even completely changes like becoming saccharine; maybe more comfortable for some but not near as effective. I think we are not giving the relationship with this other person our complete attention; almost an easy way out; don’t talk about the real issues of friendship but just merely being wishy washy! We act more like a wet wash rag! That is my opinion.

Quarrelsome, argumentative, noncoachable, or, controversial! Do any of you remember the popular radio show that became a weekly tv program in the early 70 called the Bickersons. It was made by copying real people. What made it popular was because they turned harsh, relentless marital bickering into fast-paced and biting comedy that resonated with post-war American audiences. Saturday question--Do Bickerersons still exist today? Why do people bicker? I read in the Book it is because we always want our way a.k.a. thinking we are always right! Ouchy ouchy!

A pugnacious person! Do you or I need to have the last word about everything? Think about that? Do we always think we are right all of the time or have all the answers? Do we never agree with anyone or have to add our opinion because we think we are smarter than others? Do we like to disagree with everyone and everything? Do we think we are king of the hill? ItchieBitchie says—It’s hard to be humble when you are as smart as I am. MissPerfect says—Surely I would never act that way (i.e. who me) but I know people who do like my sister-in-law. Da!

Esther of Grace says--We decided to spend the morning at a new (to us) beach in southwest Maui. We love to snorkel, so we grabbed our gear and swam out, enjoying the incredible view. The colors were bright - coral, anemone, algae, sea urchins - some with long red spines, some deep black, and such a variety of equally colorful fish. -- My husband and I have a few hand signals when we snorkel. It is a good way to let the other person know what we've spotted - one for octopus, one for turtle, another for our favorite fish, and of course one for shark. Half-hour into our swim, he was enthusiastically giving me the shark signal. My eyes darted around me, my heart hammering in my chest. He motioned for me to follow him and I did. And there it was swimming 100 yards or more from us. A black tip reef shark. I had the underwater camera wrapped around my wrist, which didn't even cross my mind, mostly because I was focused on getting back to shore as quickly as I could. I am not a strong swimmer, but I could have broken records that day. My husband followed me, smart man. We got back on dry land and the first thing he said was "Did you get a picture?"  Pretty sure we know the answer to that question; for goodness sake I still wasn't even breathing normally. -- This happened a good ten years ago, and it is still brought up how safe that shark was and how could I have not taken a picture! I hold my ground, perfectly content with my decision to flee.  And let me have the last word that it was most definitely closer to 10 feet long, not a 3-foot-long pup. Don't even get me started.

A facetious person! There is a second hand store in Yakima that’s name is 7 times 7. I didn’t get it sooo I researched it. It is used in social media as saying finding something special, unique or a treasure. I never heard of it before. It’s called “the 7x7=49 Meme.”  Maybe I’m being contentious, but I think it’s crazy! I think it’s just syrupy talk. You like syrupy talk or do you like talk that's more like “get to the point." But syrupy talkers never are contentious it seems. Sooooo! Oh, by the way, Galen told us that San Francisco is 7 miles by 7 miles when we were touring it (i.e. I have no idea if that means anything but folks can argue that)! The tee shirt pic is my brother-in-law's. I guess you know how he feels! But that can be argued! Oh, what is the metaphor meaning of 70 X 7?

I was not trying to be disputatious but I was just plain bored. An YakimaBirderGuy invited me to go with him to a lecture by a world renowned birder about the migration of praetor birds. It sounded interesting so I went. The first 15 minutes was good but then the next hour and a half it was really boring to me. I told Rich that I had to go to the bathroom (i.e. I really did have to go). Rich came into the bathroom a little latter and said--let's go: I'm bored out of my gourd (i.e. I think he was just being nice to me as he is a birder). Lesson, I learned AGAIN that we all talk to long and write to long because we think we are really important (e.g. like we are the only folks who have grandkids or the only ones who ever went on a vacation). JoeBlow says--who, what, me?! But remember folks, I'm just a little ol' farm boy from a mile and quarter south of Roseland, MN. Now if the subject was something I was really interested in, it might have been a different story!!! hahaha

Who is a devil's advocate? My conclusion of the mater is--People often avoid contentious individuals because frequent arguing, criticism, or confrontation can make interactions feel tense and exhausting (i.e. basically it’s all about them). When I’m around folks where every conversation seems likely to become a debate, I would rather pull thistles bare handed. Even when BigBertha has valid points, her aggressive or combative manner wants to dominate; I prefer real folks with good kind hearts. CadillacJack says--Bottom line, contentious folks are a pain in the butt! That is CadillacJack's opinion! But any contentious person might want to argue that point!

FYI I have been told by an educated person in this area that oppositional behavior might be a disorder called Oppositional Defiant Disorder which can be treated.

Have a FUN day my friends unless you have other plans. (-:

erv

MyDeceasedFriend said--The best thing to give to your enemy is forgiveness.

stereotype

Well, I think we usually see what we are looking for or we don't see what we don't want to see!

Anonymous sent me a message sorta kinda saying that I stereotype! I do and so does anonymous! I’m stereotyping here, you stereotype as well as all humans do. An acquaintance told me about a special activity he did when he was in his mid-20s. Then he said, that was the happiest time of my life. Of what I know of his next 60 years of his life I can understand that. I’m stereotyping people with his type of lifestyle as it appears as those with his type of life style don't live a very happy life. My stereotype of course!

In Yakama, we walk in a neighborhood that we really like. It is an older neighborhood with older houses that are quint, almost fairy tale styles, with mature shrubs, mature trees and old brick fences/walls. They have court yards, gates, private areas, which are very inviting. They remind me of miniature old castles or estates of years gone by. Others must like them as well as they are very popular houses for folks to live in which makes them pricey. They just seem mysteriously romantic to me. I could live in one. I think a certain unique type of people live in these houses. I’m stereotyping here.

I think that for many, perception is reality.

This guy is not dressed as a typical hot dog eater at Costco. I stereotyped him; my stereotype was very positive! Just then a guy passed my table with a cart full, I mean full, of stuff. He had on a Seahawk tee-shirt on as did I. I said--go Seahawks--he said, go Seahawks back--tough loss Sunday--can't win them all--you got that right; he gave me a big smile and off he went. My stereotype of him also was very positive.

Some folks do not have a set of rules to follow in living their lives (i.e. they live with no rule book). They have no right or wrong, no correct lifestyle example to live by, no standards; basically they live by whatever they think is right and they don’t care how other people live their lives either; no play book or set of rules to follow (i.e. they play life by their ear or maybe feelings). They might not follow the civil laws or criminal laws if they disagree with them. I call this way of life “a free for all.” This way of life is confusing to me but obviously not to some. I’m probably stereotyping this type of person.

A young man in his 20s shared my table with me while eating our hot dogs at Costco told me that he goes to a certain church here in the Valley. This church seems to be doing will with a lot of attenders. I asked him why they seem soo successful especially with the younger couples and families and he said—“Well, the church is clear that there are certain ways to live proper lives and they make it very clear and expect people to live that way; people like standards to live by.”

Jeanne and I went on a fun hike up ‘er in ‘em mountains recently and it was really fun and even maybe an accomplishment for us at our age. We interacted with other hikers and once again commented that hikers are happy folks; they love nature and being out exercising. They are unique people (i.e. is that a stereotype or reality). Related to that, I believe folks who believe in Jesus have a peace about them that shows when they interact with others and it even shows physically; it just shows up! Is that a stereotype or reality? Dr. J says--If we don’t have peace within ourselves, we can’t have peace with others.

I stereotype people as to how they talk, dress, their bumper stickers, if they keep their promises, if they are always mad at the world, their hair dos, if their cars are clean, what people eat, how they take care of their body, what they read, who their friends are, how their kids act, what their activities are, if they are kind, sweet, and caring, their hobbies, etc. Don’t kid ourselves, we stereotype folks. I wonder how folks stereotype me! Realities are a little fuzzy at times!

I think we don't always see people the way they are, we see them the way we are. 

A neighbor to the house we “house sat” in CA has this sign on the end of his drive. What do you think he looks like and what do you think he’s like? What is your stereotype of this person?  We met him and we know. You don’t. Now if I tell you that he has hair to his shoulders, a full face of hair with a full, long white beard, does that change your stereotype of him. Now if I tell you in this neighborhood the houses are in the 2m$ range, does that affect your stereotype? If I tell you that we were told that he is a nice guy and has a pottery shed in his back yard would that affect your stereotype? Now if I tell you he's a retired CA Highway Patrol officer would that affect your stereotype of him. C’mon, you know it does!

I think we sometimes mistake confidence for arrogance!

We think that traveling gives us the opportunity to see and be around people of many different life styles, beliefs, and ways of living a.k.a. a broad perspective. It seems to help break down our stereotypes, maybe. We learn to accept people more and accept them, maybe, even though we might have a hard time in agreeing with them, maybe. Anyway, it seems like it does for me, maybe! It seems to break the attitude of the old nursery rhyme, “I do not like thee, Dr. Fell; the reason why I cannot tell.” What is your stereotype of this traveler who has been around?

Esther of Grace says--"They were looking for a strong powerful king who would bring present day, present trouble freedom. Instead, he came quietly - humble, gentle, and kind. He turned what they knew upside down. He was not what they were expecting. He was more than they ever knew they needed. He is Love. His freedom for us is eternal. He is the King of kings."

Have a FUN day my friends unless you have other plans. (-:

erv

MyDeceasedFriend Jean said--To learn a subject well, teach it to someone else.

our accomplishments

Well well brown cow now what! I encourage you to sit down and write down your accomplishments that you have had in your life (i.e. or were given to us). We all have accomplishments that we feel are very important to us, maybe most of them others don’t even know about, they are very private. I think we need to applaud ourselves for what we have done (i.e. and thank God for them), it is good for our mental health. Humans, I read have a tendance to beat ourselves up a lot but don’t compliment ourselves enough (i.e. many folks are humble in recognizing their accomplishments but not all). Again, I really suggest you sit down in quit place and write your accomplishments down. You might even want to throw the list away when done with it, that is ok, but please write them down. I think it will do us good. I am going to do that! I hope you do too! I think most folks are much better than they think!

A form of thinking of our accomplishments was told to me by a golf friend yesterday. After we got done golfing we were siting on a little patio and talking before we left and he told me that every night and every morning he thanks God for the the blessings of his life. And this guy has not had an easy life. I asked him what he was going to do next--I'm going gambling; I gamble almost every day. Do you win--no--that is why they call it gambling and not winning!

Unsung heroes! Maybe our best accomplishments go unnoticed by others and maybe even we don’t even know how some of our accomplishments have affected others. They might even have results after we are dead, it could happen! We could be a hero in someone’s life (i.e. completely turn a person’s life around, a 180) and we will never know it.

Our circle of influence. CoachB says—Choose your friends carefully; influence is contagious. Yes, we influence others if we know it or not. You have influenced others; there is no doubt. That is quite an accomplishment. Think about that. Don’t discount the influence we have on others; they are great accomplishments. Dr. J says—Pray that God will give us the opportunity to be salt and life wherever we go.

Uplift people for no benefit for ourself; now that is an accomplishment. An uplift is an unbelievable accomplishment we can do to help others. There are many ways to uplift others. And you have done it and are doing it. How about praying for others!

Being givers! Volunteer efforts that you do are great accomplishments; good for the recipient and good for yourself; statics prove that. Hopefully all of us are givers in some way. People do it all over the world. Many of you are great givers of your time, talents and money. Giving money is a great accomplishment. And no one even knows that you did it. ItchieBitchie says—When we give to get attention, then it’s no longer a gift but a business deal.

Encouragement to others. Accomplishments are not considered the same by different folks even though the accomplishment might be the same thing (e.g. an underdog gets a college education). Those accomplishments are huge massive to one and to another its old hat that is just taken for granted. Jeanne worked with the Special Olympics and for some of the participants, completing a race is a major accomplishment and they are soooo happy what they accomplished; for another person they take it for granted (i.e. might not even appreciate they can do it). Think about accomplishments that are really special to you. You know what they are, only you know!

I think all of you accomplish much more than others realize and even to yourself. You are good folks but could even be better so we all need to throw those chips away and get our butts off the couch and do something! That is my opinion. “True love is an act of the will—a conscious decision to do what is best for the other person instead of ourselves."--Billy Graham

I suggest you think about doing something unexpected for someone, something out of the box for you a.k.a. an accomplishment for you. Here is an example I got from my second cousin once removed-- FYI - I just read in the Omaha World Herald that Warren Buffett is stepping down from his position of "Chairman of the Board" of Berkshire Hathaway.  He just recently turned 96 years old, and his son will take over.  His quote this morning ----" Father Time always wins.  He has, however, been kind to me"----- I sent him a copy of the book Mere Christianity, by CS Lewis several years ago, highlighting a few choice paragraphs, and offered to meet him for lunch at a nearby Dairy Queen, (which he owns), but he did not take me up on the offer.  I even offered to buy his lunch.  Still waiting. The "Other Warren" in Omaha.

Esther of Grace says--"I went to a college whose football team is known more for its struggles than its successes. The students, fans, and alumnae don’t let this reputation define our school, or our experiences. We cheer for our team, we wear our colors proudly, we sing the fight song with passion, we encourage the next generation in attending. --- The truth is that a college is more than the football program. Ask any of us alum, and I bet we have oodles of stories to share about our experiences, our challenging classes and top-notch professors, the quaint town, the gorgeous campus… the family-feel… the friendships. Oh, and the cheese! Their creamery makes really good cheese."

Have a FUN day my friends unless you have other plans. (-:

erv

MyDeceasedFriendJean said--Work as though everything depended on you, and pray as though everything depended on God.

analyticals

 “It ain’t what you don’t know that gets you into trouble.  It’s what you know for sure, that just ain’t so” - Mark Twain

Remember folks, I’m just a little ol’ farm boy from a mile and quarter south of Roseland, MN where we basically back then made all our decisions by the seat of our pants; and that is about all we had to make our decisions on ! You know what I mean! No analyticals!

People say to me a lot, “you know” but I really don’t know a whole lot and the older I get I realize I even know less but they keep saying to me, “you know erv.” I have to stop them and tell them I really don’t know, tell me what I’m suppose to know. I do know Joe Whoknowseverthing thinks he knows everything but doesn't know what he doesn't know! You know him too. I bet you know what I mean! Joe Smart asks--How do we know what we don't know?

I follow Mariner baseball and sorta kinda enjoy it as a hobby since I now live in WA. They are hard for me to follow at times as they can’t hit very well. They are 29^th out of 30 major teams in hitting. Not too long ago they were the worst. It’s hard to win a whole lot with a team batting average of .232. That is what the analyticals say a.k.a. real data, the facts. Baseball and other sports are really using analyticals in making decisions, putting the odds in their favor in many coaching decisions they think. It’s sorta kinda having AI doing the coaching, you know!

The downside of making decisions from analyticals is that there are no feelings in decision making, no human side. No intuitive or using hunches or guesses or faith. It’s just facts. I also hear it’s done in education as well—to get into certain schools or areas of education it is based strictly on grades and test scores. I question if that is just a good idea, as then it is the analyticals that only count. They think the proof is in the pudding!

We were walking on the Pismo Beach Pier out unto the Pacific Ocean. We saw sea lions and sea otters and we met a couple, Earl and Judy, who live in Southern CA. We met them because I had my IA tee shirt on and they asked if we were from IA. They have strong connections with Orange City, IA which is the home of Northwestern College, my alma mater.  We had a great visit; they are Dutch folks who go to the Christian Reformed Church. Earl had this pin on with 2 question marks as you can see. I asked him what they are about.  First question is if you die tonight, do you know for certain that you’re gonna go to heaven and then the second question is when you get there why would the Lord let you in. Analyticals!

You know in many businesses, analyticlals are used for merit-pay. If you produce more, you get paid more. That is for profit businesses; non-profit organizations maybe not as much. You know that merit pay makes sense to some  but not to everyone. Maybe, if folks are good in what they are doing, they like the system and if…they don’t. You know what I mean!

You know the future sure appears to be heavy on analyticals with the use of AI. You know we can gather data and facts in incredible ways, in large amounts and at amazing speed. It’s bound to change our lives if we like it or not. As I was waiting in line the other day for my hotdog at Costco, another guy was waiting as well. He was a soft-spoken guy of about my age and said—I never thought I would order my hotdog at Costco on a computer, but I just did. I can’t imagine what our grandkids will be doing in the future and what their lives will be like. I’m worried for them.

Cal Raleigh of the Mariners was their star last year, I mean the big dog. This year he can’t hit (i.e. his batting average is .179). That really stinks. Most teams would not have him on the team and would send him down to the minors. Last year because he did soooo well, they extended his contract another 6 years for millions and millions of dollars. Now they don’t know what do do with the guy. Here is the flip side of the story—Last year he handled himself with great poise and humility with all his success. They say, this year he acts the same. He’s a class act but he can’t hit this year! Now what?

I read recently what Oswald Chambers said that really caught my attention. He said—“Beware of an abandonment that has a self-interested spirit in it. If we give something to God only because we want something in return, there is nothing of the Holy Spirit in our abandonment; it is miserable, commercial self-interest…When we are forced to choose between our natural relationships and Jesus Christ, most of us desert him.” Ouchy ouchy! Do the analyticals folks. You know what I’m talking about!

I had a problem with my laptop computer in that I couldn’t get the screen to extend. I thought I tried everything but no luck soooo I asked my MI-wizard for his advice. He said the normal—reboot! I tried that again but no success. I tried using the touch screen and all of sudden it got fixed; I have no idea what I did. The wizard then told me this—”Occasionally, I have seen older laptops (4+ yes old), start acting odd, due to the soder on the motherboard getting too hot and losing its connectivity. It's not super common, but older laptops which are not shut off regularly, are susceptible to this. It's kind of like if you've never slept to let your brain rest, you would start acting odd too.” You know what he is talking about. No analyicals needed folks!

We have had a lot of time in a beautiful setting (i.e. I call it as I l looked out the back window of the house we are at, I call it the Garden of Eden) and also walking on Pacific Ocean beaches to ponder, medicate and just think (i.e. a great opportunity to be still and quiet). You know the feeling! Well, I thought about a lot of things, no question. Some of my thoughts were perplexing and confusing and some very joyous! I admit it! Here is one of my many thoughts that I read and thought about--Keep what serves you or inspires you. Remove what distracts you.

Esther of Grace says--"Did you know walking is one of the best things we can do for our bodies? At least that's what I remember my doctor telling me years ago. Even better if we can find a hill or two to climb and get our heart rate up. Even better still to have a friend to walk with. And dare I say perfect if the walk is on one of our Valley's gorgeous trails, and my (energetic) pups are with us. --  We got our oldest pup just before the Pandemic. Who knew she was what would get me moving every day for those long months of feeling like we were pent up at home. I met new friends at the park, appropriately masked and distanced, and we walked and talked. It was so life-giving!  One of those friends continues to be one of my favorite walking partners... and accountability partners. Another healthy benefit for our body...and soul.  -- That same energetic pup and my newfound love to be moving outdoors got me connected to another friend who loves to hike. She introduced me to some great trails in our area. Inclines for our heart health, miles of wide-open space and fresh air for our body health, and deep conversations for our soul health. --  Sounds like a pretty good equation to me,  An energetic pup (or dear friend... or both) + great outdoors + a hill or two = Happy heart. Happy soul. 

Have a FUN day my friends unless you have other plans. (-:

erv

MyDeceasedFriend Jean said--The door of opportunity won't open unless we do some pushing.

past present future

My parents, Chester and Anna, sent me to school when I was the youngest kid in my class. Besides being young I was small for my age. What a disadvantage all through my school years in sooo many ways. That is the way they did it back then (i.e. what were they thinking!). My whole life might have been different if they might of  held me back for a year. But who knows, maybe it was better they didn't and maybe worse. But I think that decision affected me in my past, present and future. But I will never know now will I. But I want you to know that I was still in the top 5 in my class at Roseland, MN Elementary; there were only 5 in my class!

You ever make a phone call by mistake? Of course you did; we all do. I called a friend back and he said, I wasn’t calling you but just made a mistake; we had a great talk! I told him I do that, even more as I get older I think! Could be. It’s the aging process. A sweet old lady who I had the opportunity to drive to her doctor’s appointment, said to me—erv, aging is great as long as you don’t get sick; that’s the biggy! I asked my buddy at church for the cell number of Steve as Steve and I are going out for breakfast—he said, which Steve, there are three Steves—the old one—they are all old—the one who can’t hear very well—all three of them can’t hear very well. Oh man!

When we look in our rear view mirrors, wow, we think about many things alright! I wonder what the most common thought folks have when they think about their past. I have read many times that when people are about to die, they have many regrets of their past. Maybe we don’t think about such events when we are in the present and but do we wonder how our life will affect the future?

We are presently house sitting at our friends' house who Jeanne has been a friend with Linda since they were little girls in Yakama. Oh yes, we're taking care of their cat, Tim, as well! The first thing in the morning Tim comes into our bedroom and meows, then jumped on our bed, gets right in our faces, purrs, kneads and says good morning (i.e. I have never been around a house cat and didn't know what kneading was but I do now). I never experienced a house cat before in my past; but am now in the present; we might have a new future! Sooo for a week and a half we are going to explore the Pacific Ocean coast around Arroyo Grande, CA. 

Esther of Grace says--"I sit by the ocean Each wave brings a breath of peace Refreshed I walk on  --  Each one of us is either in the midst of a storm, about to head into a storm, just coming out of a storm, or know someone in a storm. It is good to know Who anchors us!"

Do you know any of these folks? Henry Doneit who has already finished it who represents the past, Doris Current who is represents the present who is on it and Stanley Braggadocious who represents the future as he’s bragging about what he’s gonna do. 

OneSmartLadyOnBismoBeach said--"Gratitude and thanksgiving always look back at the past though it may also take us to the present. But prayer always looks to the future.” King Solomon in Ecclesiastes says—There is no remembrance of men of old, and even those who are yet to come will not be remembered by those who follow. A friend back in IA kids me and said, erv, after you left Aplington, after about two weeks, all the folks forgot about you! I think he was kidding! But we all know it doesn’t take long! My new name is ervwho?

There is no medicine like hope, no incentive so great, and no tonic so powerful as the expectation of something better tomorrow. Now that is thinking about the future; very positive. ItchieBitchie says--"You can't get lucky if you don't take action. The best opportunity in the world is just a missed opportunity if you don't grab it." That opportunity is gone, it's in the past, never will show up again. I have said this many times—I pray for opportunities, I pray then that I might recognize them and then pray that I might have the courage to act on them.

When they planted the little trees and bushes, the folks down the street, thought they were soo cute (i.e. that was the past. Now they are an eye sore as they are way overgrown; it’s a mess (i.e. that’s the present). Some day those bushes and  trees will have to be cut down at a huge massive cost (i.e. that is the future). Wouldn’t it been easier to just trim the trees and bushes each year? Could this be an analogy to our life.

CoachB says--A person's prior history is a strong determinant of future performance.   

Past present future! Mike asked us what time it was which started a incredible conversation. Mike who owned a surf shop for 40 year was diagnosed with bladder cancer that metabolized to his brain and was told he had about a year to live. He said miraculously I no longer have cancer. He said--I thank God every day; I don't like to tell people about this as I think it might jinks me! Are you a believer--yes, I believe in Jesus but have many questions, I just don't understand many things but oh, I'm soooo thankful. It is my second time surfing after 3 surgeries and many drugs; I am very weak but got up on my knees today; I am sooo thankful to be alive and I praise Jesus every day. We prayed together right there on Pismo Beach!

Saturday question—Do we live our life in the past, present or future? Maybe we live in all three! Could be. Some folks talk continuously about their past, others about what they are doing currently with their lives and others about what they hope to do some day. When we talk to folks, it doesn’t take long to figure out where they are living their life, my opinion. What kind of person do we enjoy being around the most? What kind of person has probably the best mental health?

Have a FUN day my friends unless you have other plans. (-:

erv

MyDeceasedFriendJean said--People don't need our advice as much as our love.

sore spot

The doctor says, does it hurt here—no--does it hurt here—no--does it hurt here—yes---the sore spot is your appendices, we can fix that!

I hear many seniors talk about how concerned/worried they are because of their children and grandchildren. Some even their great grandchildren. It might be the greatest concern of their lives and it consumes much of seniors’ thinking and minds. It is sorta kinda a sore spot! But flipthepancake, for many seniors their children, grandkids and great grandkids are sweet spots! And some a mixture!

Dr. J says—"The book of Proverbs suggests two primary means for raising a child in “the way”: instruction and correction (discipline). Instruction identifies the way and starts them on it; correction puts him back on the way they should go when they stray from it.” Jeanne's great granddaughter was at our house recently (i.e. she is 7 years old and a sweet little gal). Her mother told us she said to her--I don't like it when you discipline me mom but I know it's your job! We wonder where she got that from!

All people might have sore spots in their lives, “some could have a festering sore spot” in which we are careful not to talk about (e.g. it could be trauma in someone’s past such as bad and hurtful parents). Some people are touchy about such things as it brings back bad memories because of their past and it hurts very much a.k.a. it's a sore spot to even think about it. We try to be sensitive about such subjects of others unless they bring it up and want to talk about it. It appears some folks might have many sore spots of their past. Do you have any sore spots? Those sore spots when irritated can make some folks just explode!

Soooo, how can we get rid of our sore spots? Good question. You probably heard and know all the ways. Sooo, which one is the best? Believers in Jesus have a special way to fix it. But even we have a hard time to fully understand it and don’t always use the method. It seems soooo easy and it costs us nuttin! Many times we even keep wallowing in the mud! SusieQ says--Yabut erv, it fells so good to wallow in the mud! The late Dolly Parton said--"I'm one of those people who, even if things are not right, goes about trying to make it as right as I can rather than just lying around on my ass and wallowing in it all day."

At Crescent City, Oregon there is a huge harbor full of commercial fishing boats. We walked down in the harbor and talked to Stacey, an Average Joe trying to make a living, the owner of a boat. He was the third generation of being a fisherman. His son who works with him on the boat does not have much interest in fishing, so the fourth generation of fisherman might end the tradition (i.e. sorta kinda a sore spot we could feel that he had). He told us all about the fishing business which was very interesting to us. We were standing next to his boat and we asked him about the symbol of a fish behind the boat's name which is that of a believer. He said he was not a believer, but there is a superstition that if you ever change the name of the boat when you buy it, it is bad luck so I just leave it alone. So you are very superstitious then. No, not at all, but just in case!

Esther of Grace says--When was the last time you felt awe?  I was talking with a friend who did an amazing hike out of country and she was telling me how overwhelmed she felt in some spots. She lives in a beautiful part of the US and takes advantage of the outdoors as much as she can but she said she hadn’t felt “awe” in a long time. When she was on her 4-day out of country hike, she said the feeling of awe and wonder came up multiple times a day! I thought about our conversation a few days later and realized when I am hiking in our city limits (we have gorgeous trails) I experience awe. It may be a simple view of the Valley and farms, or it may be the wildflowers dancing in the breeze. The wonder and joy of it all can and has taken my breath away. For you it might be something different - your children or grandchildren? A sunset on a warm summer’s night? A perfect sourdough loaf slathered in butter? I hope we encourage one another to provide space and time to be awed. Opportunities are all around us, we just need to raise our eyes and take it in.

We are exploring and experiencing the coasts of Oregon and northern and central California. It's beautiful soooo we can relate to what Esther of Grace is referring to. We were on a hiking trail in the redwoods and were talking with a couple who were in their late 20s; he said, "I get tears in my eyes here!" Jeanne says--"As we walked the magnificent redwood forest trails, understanding that the trees support each other by intertwining roots, and walk the beaches with the vibrant sounds of crashing waves, soring birds and laughing families, the Web of Life makes my soul sing!" Personally, I just stand in awe of the beauty of His majestic creation, it is very humbling to me; I can't explain it; it makes me tremble tremble! Nina expresses her feeling in the pic. 

Soooo let’s talk about the sweet spots of our life. It appears to me sweet spots really do vary with different types of folks, my opinion. It seems it depends on where our values are and where we get our values from. The world tells us sweet spots are more material stuff, that’s how it’s measured. My mentor would say to me, erv, the worldly golden rule is whoever has the most gold rules. If we compare that to the golden rule of the Bible which is “treat others like you want to be treated," I would guess our sweet spots might be different. JoeSixPack says—Takers never have enough and are never happy but givers are always happy.

On our adventure we stopped at Bandon, OR for a break and lunch. We met and had lunch with Fran and Roger from Louisiana at a beach clam shack. She was 84 and he was 80 and they were on their second marriage because of death of their first spouses and have been married for six years, very similar to our experience. They were Southern Baptist. We enjoyed them very very much. What an opportunity for us and them maybe. She said to Jeannie as I was getting some napkins, we almost feel guilty that we are having so much fun. Anyway, I had clam chowder for lunch again, eating the local cuisine. We had so much fun with them. A great experience! Ike our waiter's shirt says it all--I'm too cute to be cRabby! What fun!

This might be a sore spot to some; Coach B says—"Discipline will beat talent most of the time!” That could be Coach B but discipline, talent, faith in God, personality and love all put into one person makes a really great person. No sore spots!

Steve, anybody can be a Steve, says—"At any given time, somewhere in the world, there is a battle taking place. There may be two or more countries at war or there may be a civil war occurring within one country. Those battles are obvious to all who witness them. However, every day, every person also faces invisible spiritual battles, between pleasing the desires of the flesh and following the leading of the Holy Spirit.” Steve, that is of course if folks believe in the Holy Spirt; if they don’t, there is no battle. Or is there?

Have a FUN day my friends unless you have other plans. (-:

erv

MyDeceasedFriendJean says--Sometimes the best thing to get off your chest is your chin.

pinprick moments

We all have heard it said--It's the last one or there are only two left or they're going fast, or don't miss out! We all don't believe those ploys but marketers and advertisers all know they work (i.e. they are pinpricks moments). I guess we think, well, maybe they might be true sooo we don't want to miss the opportunity so we but it now. This week's It's Saturday won't be ever done again. Soooo you better jump on it! It's your last chance! Read it while it's hot!

No matter how smart folks are, Costco sample stations for sweet stuff affect folks’ minds and they buy the product; they just can’t resist a.k.a. a pinprick moment. Costco is an excellent marketer, my opinion, they know what they are doing alright. Of course we are all pretty big suckers which helps tooo! hahaha GeorgeTheCrook says--Do we ever notice that most people think they are not average or below average but above average but in reality, many are just average (i.e. we say we would never fall for such a trick)! Da! Just look at the bell curve! 

I have just read the book All The Light We Cannot See by Anthony Doerr, a historical fiction book suggested by you. I would guess many of you have read it. It has won some awards as a pretty good book written about WWII. It was a pinprick to my mind about how people can be taken advantage of, especially when vulnerable. The book is reality! It is cruel, sad, and uplifting! Are we ever vulnerable? It has many undertones that really made me think (e.g. live life before you die).  A client, who is a sweet, pleasant 84 year-old lady that I drove to the doctor because she had a constant stomach problem. When I dropped her off back at her house, I asked her if her doctor suggested she quite drinking wine--he didn't mention it but I'm going to have my glass of wine at 5 regardless; at my age does it make much difference; I'm going to live my life before I die!

I was told by a friend who has Italian friends that Italians tell their children of all ages how to act and live their lives; it is an accepted custom. Most people won’t accept suggestions in our culture, it appears (i.e. parents want their children to think for themselves) and they do but then they don't like it when they do! hahaha. Maybe that is where the Godfather power comes from. Most younger folks would consider advice a pinprick moment if aging parents would tell their grown children how to act! Such is life.

MyBigSisterOnlyInAge texted me that her sister-in-law died. She said she was Italian and will be remembered by her food she made. Then she asked me if I ever wonder what we will be remembered as/for when we die. I thought about that; maybe we might be surprised! Soooo, who really knows! We might be way wrong! Maybe we think we are better than we are thought of by others and many just the opposite--maybe it depends who is doing the evaluation. Could be! Coach Parcell said--"We judge a trapper by his furs!

Esther of Grace says--When someone comes to mind…is it just coincidence? I like to believe I’m thinking of them for a reason. Maybe I forgot I have a coffee date with them or maybe it’s my conscience reminding me we are hiking the next morning; I better get my bag ready. But many times, I credit the Holy Spirit, and I say a little prayer. I also try to follow up with a text or sending a card in the mail letting them know I’m thinking of them. There have been countless times when I have reached out after a nudge from the Holy Spirit and the person was grateful - in need of a talk, prayer, or a visit.

A pinprick moment: Jon says—"You ever chase apples we never needed? The operative word is “enough.” That’s where the trouble starts and where the solution begins. If we don’t define enough, fear will define it for us. If we don’t choose enough, the world will choose it for us. Enough is a slippery word!” According to the orchardists I got to know, the Valley is suffering from a “shakeout.” They have lost money the last 4 years. AI says—" The economic and business term for this process is an industry shakeout (or simply a shakeout). It happens after a period of overexpansion or overproduction when a glut of goods crashes prices, forcing weaker and less efficient companies to go bankrupt or exit the market until supply and demand balance out again. It is a business cycle.” A Butler County farmer says--That is unless the government subsides the situation. But if we are part of the shakeout, it is serious, more than a pinprick!

I asked an orchardist from the church we attend, whose orchard is in the third generation about this. He is smart and a nice guy. He said--Well it could be the “invisible hand”. That's from the author of our capitalist system, Adam Smith in 1776. It’s a rather cruel system as there was no safety net for those people and resources being moved out by low prices. John Keys developed a theory in the 1930’s that the govt should develop programs to assist those resources and people that had been displaced. That’s kind of how I understand it. But I don’t know much as I’m just old farm boy.

For the extreme rich, shakedowns don’t affect them much, not even a pinprick, for the average person maybe a little more than a pinprick, but for the poor, it is major, like survival. The majority of the population now needs assistance, as I see it, to exist. It would be great if we could get the “age old problem of poverty” figured out but it’s a continuous problem for ever, it's nuttin new.  I wonder if the extreme inequality isn’t worked out, if our country or world can exist. But it has always been. Here in the Valley roughly 84% to 86% quality for free school lunch (i.e. a friend who is close to this says, it’s more like 95%--but now I hear WA has free school lunch for everyone). It seems that many could not have a financial self--supporting life without subsides. I volunteer to drive for the underprivileged who many are poor, and if they didn’t have assistance in many ways, they tell me that they probably would not live. They learn the system very well just to survive. But let me tell ya, these folks are very appreciative for help. That has been my experience. BigShotErnie says--An effective plan to have a good financial self-supporting life is to marry it or inherit it. 

A character in that novel repeatedly was told that she was a brave person. Her last response to the person who said that to her was, I am not a brave person, I am just living my life. That statement could be a pinprick moment to us. Big on the maybe!

PositiveBetty says this pinprick moment--"Remember folks, an unrevealed part of ourself is never understood." One of my clients who I drove to her doctor's appointment was a sweet, pleasant older lady walking with her walker, her chariot as I referred it to her, so I told her she was sweet and pleasant--she said--erv, you don't live with me!

Have a FUN day my friends unless you have other plans. (-:

erv

MyDeceasedFriendJean said--Hope is necessary in every condition.

positive spin

Little Johnny’s parents were trying to put a positive spin on the quality of not being a quitter; trying to teach him that nonquitters are never forgotten. They told him that we all remember people like Abraham Lincoln, Thomas Edison, Michael Jordon and Albert Schouskie.  Johnny asked, who was Albert Schouskie anyway?  See, he quit and no one remembers him!

The Valedictorian says--"Without laughter, the rough and rocky places on the path might be too painful to bear. Humor not only lightens our load, it also broadens our perspective. To be deadly serious is to suffer tunnel vision. To be able to laugh at yourself clears the vision." Laughter does give us more of a positive spin alright, at least for me it does.

CrazyMarvin who is crazy 73.7% of the time, according to his wife Nellie, says--I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't sooo I'm just damned!

Business executive and former CEO of Pepsi, Indra Nooyi, reminds us to assume the best in others:  "Whatever anybody says or does, assume positive intent. You will be amazed at how your whole approach to a person or problem becomes very different. When you assume negative intent, you're angry. If you take away that anger and assume positive intent, you will be amazed. Your emotional quotient goes up because you are no longer almost random in your response. You don't get defensive. You don’t scream. You are trying to understand and listen because at your basic core we are saying, ‘Maybe they are saying something to me that I'm not hearing.’ Assume positive intent has been a huge piece of advice for me.” It works for me but it is hard for me to do sometimes, but I try real hard! I think I fail sometimes 'cause I'm human! Such is life.

I have the opportunity to be part of a group of guys who drink coffee weekly. They are mostly retired guys from many past occupations. They call it the Weekly Office Meeting. Recently four of us sat at a table and had the best conversation of great meaning; we all have the same backgrounds and thinking in several areas that were similar which produced conversation that was very uplifting to all of us (i.e. a positive spin for sure). A great opportunity to think about the saying—"We always move forward to what we focus on!" That helps to have an enjoyable life, I think. Davy Crockett, king of the wild frontier, said--"Be always sure you're right — then go ahead!"

RickyRick says--"If we want to live an overflowing life rather than an overwhelming life, stop complaining, and start being grateful."  Now that is a positive spin to think about. For me, being grateful does wonders for me. But then again, human nature seems like it wants us not to be grateful but it always wants us to have more a.k.a. complaining. ThePreacherManFromNW-IA says—“The murmurers are ungrateful people. Appreciative men and women have neither the time nor disposition to stop and complain. Gratitude and murmuring never abide in the same heart at the same time."

Six-year old Bobby had strip throat and had to stay home from church. When his family came back from church they were all carrying palm branches—he asked what they were all about—they told him that when Jesus came, the people all throw down palm branches for Jesus to walk on. My luck, the day I missed church Jesus finally came!

What is piddly crap stuff! AverageJoe says, piddly crap stuff is what many people talk about and what many people spend tooo much time thinking about and worrying about that is of little importance. It just isn’t that important! Do we ever spend way too much time on the wrong stuff? Maybe we should change our title to a more positive spin like Wal Mart did (i.e. rebrand our lives). They no longer call their employees security but now call them asset protection! A big well drilling rig pulled up beside me at the stop sign yesterday, and on it was printed in big letters, we are honest and efficient. So there you go! RickyRick says--"Every day when we wake up, we need to remind ourself of what counts and what doesn’t count. Don’t be distracted by things that are insignificant and petty."

Esther of Grace is a writer in Yakama that we have met. We like her writing and I asked her if she would be interested in writing a paragraph each week for It's Saturday and she agreed. I hope you enjoy her writings. Esther of Grace writes--"To be or not to be…offended. A co-worker comes down the hall one morning on her way into work and passes by my office. My door is open, I look up and smile, greeting them with a hello! My co-worker doesn’t look up, and responds with a simple, muffled, “Hey.” ---  I have, in that moment, the decision to be miffed with their less than enthusiastic response, go after them and ask what’s wrong or to take a breath and offer a prayer, a blessing over their day. I’ve chosen both responses over the years, and I’ll tell you, the latter is always the better choice. ---  We are all going through a storm, just coming out of a storm, about to go into a storm, or know someone in a storm. When we choose praying for someone, compassion, and kindness, we will be more inline with who God is calling us to be…in my opinion."

A little boy was reading a cowboy story. A picture shows the cowboy on his horse wearing a white hat surrounded by a great number of bad guys wearing black hats. It looks really bad for the cowboy; it looks like there is no way out for him ; he is doomed, toast. The little boy can’t handle it so he goes to the last pages where there is the cowboy riding his horse into the sunset.  He goes back to the part where the cowboy is surrounded with no way out. He tells the cowboy, don’t worry, it will all turn out great; I know the end of the story.

Evan Esar said--"If a man is poor, he is stupid; if he is rich, he's a crook; if he goes to church, he's a hypocrite; if he stays away, he's a sinner. If he's in politics, he's a grafter; if he takes no interest in politics, he's an unworthy citizen; if he dies young, there was a great future ahead of him; if he lives to a ripe old age, he's a burden to society. The only man who is never criticized is he who has never been born."

Maybe Upgrade Our Plan! Many of the devotions I read talk a lot about being quiet a.k.a. being still. The readings always say that being still is a great investment in our lives. Maybe to sum it up—Results of being quiet is a great mystery; do not try to fathom it; just enjoy it. Personally, being still and quiet is a very positive spin on my life. Soooo I lost one of my ear buds; it had to be in our yard or in our house. We looked for several days with no success; I gave up. A couple of days later I was eating my lunch on our patio and sitting there quietly and saw this little white thing under a bush about twelve feet away. It was my earbud. Crazy. I think I’m going to sit still and be quiet more often!

I like what King Solomon, probably the wisest man that ever lived, says in Proverbs--"Don’t do as the wicked do, and don’t follow the path of evildoers. Don’t even think about it; don’t go that way. Turn away and keep moving" Now that is a pretty good positive spin for me!

Have a FUN day my friends unless you have other plans. (-:

erv

MyDeceasedFriendJean said--Retire from work, but not from life.