courage

A new friend in Yakima told us—Once I got a spine my job went a lot better!

Here are a couple of questions for you to answer. Why are some folks much more courageous and tougher than others? And, how come at times all of us are more courageous and tougher than at other times?

I know many folks who are courageous and tough, and I know many folks who are wimps! I want you to think of folks who you know who fit into both of those categories. Do you think there is a common denominator in folks in both of those groups do you think?

Long time friends of Jeanne told us about one of her favorite books of all time called Follow the River by James Alexander Thom.  She is a big reader with a house full of books! The book is about courage and being tough. It’s a historical novel on the true story of a pioneer woman. They suggested that I read it; sooo I did. I suggest you try it. It made me feel like a wimp! 

Coach Frentz, who is the head football coach at Iowa, set a record of winning more games than anyone ever in the Big Ten. I always don’t like his coaching philosophy, but I like him as a person, I think he is class. ANYWAY, I listened to his interview after setting the record. Again, he gave a lot of credit by being surrounded by good folks. I hear that over and over and over again. Soooo there must be some truth to that! It really doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure that out! Flip the pancake, I have read many times that we should get rid of folks in our lives who are bad influence on us. That is just common sense, isn’t it! That might take a lot of courage to do, maybe! I wonder if we sometimes “buy into" the philosophy of folks with bad attitudes or actions which could really affect us negatively and we don’t even know it. I wonder!

I read an old timeless classic book, The Road Less Traveled by Scott Peck. It’s another book I suggest you read. In the preface of the book he says, “As a psychiatrist, I feel it is important to mention that I make no distinction between the mind and the spirit, and therefore no distinction between the process of achieving spiritual growth and achieving mental growth. They are one and the same.” Soooo I wonder if that has anything to do with courage and toughness! Mumm! I think it could. What do you think?

An old 84-year-old coffee drinking friend is courageous and tough but not really. He buys all his meals at Costco that are frozen so that he can just microwave them. He buys six weeks supply at a time. But he says--Once a month I buy a pint of ice cream; I like ice cream; I eat the whole thing in one day; I can’t help myself. Sometimes if there is a special on a quart of ice cream for about the same price, I buy it, but I also eat it all in one day as well! I can't help myself!

There is an old saying--You can’t teach a person something that they think they already know! That is probably true I would guess. I have relearned that it’s hard to change a person’s thinking if they have it instilled in their mind. It is very hard to change and if it ever changes it will have to be done by the person themselves and that just doesn’t happen very often. Soooo my conclusion, I pretty much give up on them (i.e. pretty much throw the idea of changing them out the window). I will be much happier in just accepting them as they are. Their thinking has been formed by their genetics, their past environment and their current environment and it is what it is. It appears to me that certain patterns in different folks produce certain results, and they are hard to change (i.e. both good patterns and bad patterns). For me I have to be courageous and tough to accept that!

The one and only SusieQ says--I want to be courageous and tough, but I don’t want to! I mean I want to face reality, but I really don’t want to face reality. I talked to a friend who lost his wife. He has been a caregiver to her for years. He told me that his reality has changed once again. Reality keeps changing for me. And now once again I have to face the new reality. I can’t pretend it didn’t happen. I told him to be courageous and tough; you can do it. I believe he will as he has an internal strength (i.e. guess what that is).

I read about this concept of life that is exciting. We are to kill part of our old life and replace it with a new life a.k.a. rebirth like forming a new part of our life (e.g. if we are bitter about everything so we kill that attitude and have rebirth with looking at everything positive). Do you know how much happier that would make us. Another example, we can’t run anymore or don’t want so we replace it with walking with friends. We can’t walk anymore soooo we start reading and form a book group or a friendship group or something. Now that might take courage and toughness to do. And it might make life much more exciting! Just sitting on the couch eating chips does not cut the mustard!

Jeanne has found some renewed friendships at church. It appears that some folks go back to church when they get older. It’s sorta kinda a rebirth. I have found, it seems, that some of my best new relationships are at church. Is that a surprise to you folks?

Have a FUN day my friends unless you have other plans. (-:

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MyDeceasedFriendJean said—Traveling in the company of those we love is home in motion.