Effective

Disclaimer—You can complain all you want about what I write but you get what you pay for folks (i.e. it’s all about the money). Really, if I offend you, I’m sorry. I surely need to say that ‘cause with the many folks reading this, there will be someone offended and complaining. Such is life.

It’s an effective way of teaching for FrankTheCowboyfromNebraska. You tell ‘em FrankTheCowboyfromNebraska. Mildred, the church gossip, and self-appointed monitor of the church's morals, kept sticking her nose into other people's business. Several members did not approve of her extracurricular activities, but feared her enough to maintain their silence. She made a mistake, however, when she accused Frank, a new member, of being an alcoholic after she saw his old pickup parked in front of the town's only bar one afternoon. She emphatically told Frank (and several others) that every one seeing it that there WOULD KNOW WHAT HE WAS DOING! Frank, a man of few words, stared at her for a moment and just turned and walked away. He didn't explain, defend, or deny. He said nothing. Later that evening, Frank quietly parked his pickup in front of Mildred's house... walked home... and left it there all night.

Joesixpack says—Here’s the deal, this guy plays big! I was invited to a Gung Ho meeting again by an acquaintance at Mudd Advertising (i.e. seems to be a rather effective way to motivate folks). Ben Jacobson, the basketball coach at UNI spoke. It was a typical coach talk but he reminded us that to win, a team has to have a certain effective attitude. They have to be tough, really tough mentally and physically. They have to work hard, work really hard all year and every day (i.e. most folks don’t realize how difficult it is to be great--it’s easy to be average). Some how some way a team has to have a team concept (i.e. a bunch of individuals just wont’ win—it has been proven over and over). Some how some way a team must develop a championship feeling. He said —feeling sorry for yourself is a waste of time. His first year of being head coach at UNI they started 13 and 2. The fans were calling him another John Wooden. Then they lost 7 out the next 8 and they wanted to get rid of him (i.e. he can’t coach). Hey, ya gotta win (i.e. it’s all about money folks). Another statement he made that I like—We have no rules but have expectations; if our players can’t live to our expectations, they have to leave (i.e. now that is an effective way of handling players). Such is life.

Whining, complaining, belly acking, and begging are not qualities of folks we enjoy being around. BUT they seem to be effective! Ouchy ouchy! Joesixpack says—What part of “WHAAAAAA” don’t you understand? Legislators, teachers, farmers, business folks, churches, golfers, housewives, employees, students, parents etc. all seem to whine so it must work or why would they do it. MabelTheComplainer says—I’m here ‘cause I’m not all there!

MissPerfect says--I bet I do things that don’t make much sense to others—she doesn’t whine (i.e. maybe MissPerfect has more horse power than others). But they make sense to me. SusieQ says--hug and kiss me until I whine! Many effective things, ways, and methods make no sense to others ‘cause they have never experienced them. Like my mentor says—We are all programmed by our past environment. Such is life.

CadillacJack says--Make me understand my criticism by making me do it (i.e. it’s very effective). We went to the Splash in Golden (i.e. a water fun spot for younger children). I poke fun of Arlene a.k.a. championcarsleeper (i.e. she can sleep in the craziest positions and at any time). Sometimes she sleeps with her mouth open. ANYWAY I was sitting on my lounge chair at the Splash and fell asleep. I woke up three times and had my mouth open all three times! Ouchy ouchy! Here is another personal example of effective correction of a negative attitude. I called our niece who lives in Denver and asked if her and John wanted to have pizza with us. I got no response so I thought negative thoughts. Then I got this email--Uncle Erv--Sorry we didn't get a chance to get together this weekend ... I've been having trouble with my phone lately in that it doesn't show me when I have voicemails or text messages. So I didn't know you had called until last night when another person left me a voicemail. Sorry about that! Hopefully you guys are having a good time so far. Oh man, there is usually always a reason, a reason that we don’t know about. It’s sorta kinda like what BigSpenderRalph said to his buddy TightWadDallas—Your wife is hot, way hot!!! Here is a couple of bucks for you to turn on the AC! Here is another ervthing—I thought on the way back from CO, we would swing over by Sioux City as I always wanted to play the Dakota Dunes course. So I go on line, get the number and give them a call—Hey we’re traveling from CO back to IA and was wondering if I could play your course—that seems quite a ways out of your way—well, I always wanted to play it and I’m 64 and not getting any younger—you have a point there; so what day do you want to play—Thursday—sorry but we have a tournament that day but since you are going that far out of your way I’ll let you play at 6:30 if you want—okay I’ll do it—where should we stay the night before close to the course—Saskatoon—I never heard of that town—it’s a little ways down the road—wouldn’t Sioux City be closer—no this would be the best—How’s the course—great—didn’t the Hooter Tournament play there a few years ago—no, but the Canadian Open is being played here in a couple of weeks; this course is only 6 years old, are you sure you have the right Dakota Dunes, we are in Canada—what! No I want to play the Dakota Dunes in South Sioux City, SD—you got the wrong course (i.e. we both had a good laugh—AAA well thank you anyway! So I called the other Dakota Dunes (i.e. a private club but I did talk my way on--it’s all about money folks)—Thursday is ladies day so I couldn’t play (i.e. I didn’t have enough money for ladies day)—maybe next year. We drove straight home on Wednesday for our 12.5 hour drive. Sooooooo ervie, don’t get soooooo excited sooooooo fast.

It might be reality (i.e. quite effective). I saw this saying on a t-shirt worn by a middle aged guy in Golden. It read—If you’d meet my family, you’d understand! Have you ever said—I‘ll never be like my dad or mom and you’re just like ‘em. Well flip the pancake—You acquire the good of your parents too! Soooooo, parents, be a good example. It’s a very effective way of parenting. Daphney (i.e. James and Heather’s dog) barked in the back yard. Our Little Erin 2.75 years old ran to the back door and said—No Daphney, no barking! I wonder where she heard that before! Kids mimic their parents if we like it or not. Just look around at families (i.e. it is what it is). Such is life.

So what is the most important thing our kids can mimic in us? That might depend what’s the most important thing to us I would guess. GeorgeTheCrook says—the best life lived without Jesus is still a life without Jesus! You know what folks, we can’t make anyone do something that they don’t want to do (i.e. we can lead them to water but can’t make them drink). But we can put a little salt in their food to make them thirsty. We all copy (i.e. mimic) somebody or some bodies—So who do you copy? Think about that—think about what you think about! Erin is yet a baby but she’s still the boss (i.e. a very effective boss)!

SusieQTheCowgirlFromCo was buying a new saddle. She asked her husband BillyTheCowboyFromCo—Does this saddle make my butt look big? And what do you think BillyTheCowboyFromCo said—Of course he said—Not a bit! That was a very effective response (i.e. my opinion).

LuckieEddie says Whiners are not much fun to be around. No they aren’t LuckyEddie. A guy can take about soooooo much of them. An effective way to deal with them is to not be around them. They are near impossible to change and they are just a drag to your life. We were going to the park and a pickup pulled up beside us. On it’s side it read—Rocky Mt. Bathroom; we fix ugly bathrooms! Hey, ugly bathrooms are easier to fix than whiners (i.e. my opinion). Why do you think folks are complainers anyway? ItchieBithcie says—To really be a good whiner you have to show effective emotions like crying, whine loud, stomp your feet, pout, be persistent, have great facial expressions and learn certain magical words. Such is life.

Saturday question—When you talk to God, do you whine or thank Him? I read this while eating my oatmeal with strawberries on it—the quality of your attitude will help determine the quality of your life, so you must guard your thoughts accordingly. So the next time you find yourself dwelling upon the negative aspects of your life, refocus your attention on things positive. And, the next time you’re tempted to waste valuable time gossiping or complaining, resist those temptations with all your might. And remember: You’ll never whine your way to the top…so don’t waste you breath.

I played golf at the Fossil Trace Golf Club in Golden (i.e. voted the best course in the Denver area). http://www.fossiltrace.com/ I played with BusinessWomanJan (i.e. a real estate broker associate) and SmilingSally (i.e. she was always smiling). ANYWAY we had a very pleasant time (i.e. that’s how they described it). Fossil Trace is a tough course for anyone but maybe especially for woman (i.e. I never heard either of the gals complain, whine or talk trash). One time SmilingSally got in a deep bunker and it took her several shots to get out. She said to me—I’m tired with a smile on her face. Later on I kidded her about that and she said—It was hilarious! They both had a very positive attitude (i.e. fun to be around). I think it was on the 14th fairway when I asked them how old they were—62 and 66! They called themselves the Divot Divas! I had to ask them what a Diva was, I didn’t know. They were very nice gals who seemed to enjoy life very effectively. I shot a 84 from the blues. I thought I shot a 85 but I had my score card on the counter as I had some notes on it. Heather added it up and it was actually a 84 (i.e. I need her around more). A triple, 2 doubles and 2 birdies. Those deep bunkers and several undulating greens were tough for me. I played the same ball for the whole round, played everything down and putted everything out (i.e. that’s golf isn’t it—givemes and rolling the ball is like, what kind of score do you want to have before you start the hole). Of course I played on a 5star course too. I have the Life of Riley now don’t I. Such is life.

It was very effective--Jones applied to a collection agency for a job, but he had no experience. He was so intense that the manager gave him a tough account with the promise that if he collected it, he'd get the job. Two hours later, Jones came back with the entire amount. "Amazing!" the manager said: "How did you do it?" "Easy," Jones replied: "I told him if he didn't pay up, I'd tell all his other creditors he paid us."

Heather and I had to get a new tank of gas for the grill one night. We went to Home Depot. A young man helped me get the tank out of the cage. I asked him—How do you like your job—I like it very much; I’m around some real nice folks—fellow workers or customers—both. I like to here that—usually you hear more whining than positive stuff? That attitude is very effective (i.e. my opinion). The Divot Divas and I both think that positive folks enjoy life more. What do you think?

Riley had another effective picnic in the park—Spent time with family, hiked Mt. Falcon twice, rode bike for 25 miles with my little Peanut Heather, went to church with the family (i.e. little Erin got her chocolate donut with sprinkles on it) and got to go to music in the Denver Park. Arlene had more fun that Riley I think. Little Erin loves Grandma and Grandma loves little Erin. They spend a lot of time together. It was very special for both. That’s the way it’s suppose to be folks. Such is life.

This is what a vendor had on his tee shirt--ThebleachersectionCubby says--"Shut up and drink your beer". Translated into my language it means quit your whining, buck up, suck it up, rub some dirt on it and lets get going! AverageJoe says—Half of the folks really don’t care and the other half are glad it happen to you. So throw those chips away, get your butt off the couch and do something for someone else.

Have a FUN day my friends unless you have other plans. (-:

swervinervin

KR’s thought of the day—Whining is never harmless. It destroys from the inside.
TheProfessor’sPithySaying—There is no cure for an empty head.