Disclaimer: You know, I don’t really know much (i.e. most of
you know that)! BUT I do know that this is not a subreddit! It’s more like a
casual meetup discussing the different ways to skin a cat. There is no intended shaming you of any kind
(i.e. but subconsciously there could be).
Like really folks, $8 for a beer! That is not being a one-upmanship as
I’m not a big beer drinker. I have zero interest in comparing my habits with yours. Sooooo don’t get excited if you don’t agree
with something or everything that I write in this “It’s Saturday.” Just
remember folks, you get what you pay for! This ain't no "tax refund event!" And don’t you forget it!!!!
Arlene and I went to a restaurant recently. The sign said—Hostess will seat you. There were two parties/ladies waiting ahead
of us. The first lady was mad as she had
to wait. She said to us—I don’t have
time to wait in line like this. She was
excited and agitated. I said to the
other lady ahead of us—Are you a patient person—usually I am unless I have to
go to the bathroom really bad! She made
me laugh.
SusieQ says—Time is coming folks when_______________. When
what? That is the question. You fill in
the blank. There is not an incorrect
answer; you all will pass the test with flying colors. I’m sometimes joking and sometimes I’m
not! You will have to decide now won’t
you. I have “zero” idea how you will
fill in the blank. Such is life.
ItchieBitchie says--Have any of you noticed that your
philosophy, hobbies, jobs, relationships, interests etc. have changed over
time? Why have they/you changed? Maybe many reasons—money, obsessions, age, health,
family dynamics, death, where we live, who we hang out with, our egos, etc. One of my pickleball buddies said--This year my age has caught up with me!! Saturday question—Because of our changes, are we now better folks or
worse folks? Sometimes world successes can
change folks’ personalities for better or for worse (i.e. I have noticed that alright). Sometimes success makes folks arrogant (i.e. not good--most folks don't like arrogant folks). PacoPete says--Arrogance is a huuuge massive enchilada! My Daddy,
Chester, would say to me—erv, the great folks are the ones who are great but don’t
know it; the ones who aren’t much fun to be around are the ones who think they
are great but aren’t. That is what he
said. MissPerfect says—Many times we
talk and act soooo big and then the roaster crows three times. Ouchy ouchy!
I stopped at McDonald’s after running up’erin’emmountains
the other morning for a sausage egg biscuit (i.e. I like those suckers). ANYWAY, there were a lot of seniors there
socializing over a senior coffee for 80 cents.
The booth next to me had 4 senior guys sitting there talking about
anything and everything (i.e. quite entertaining). Then another guy came and he started talking
about his type A wife (i.e. that was entertaining toooo). One guy said to him—I guess that’s why you
are here this morning (i.e. he didn’t respond)!
He said--I have learned to get along with her; we have been married for
49 years; but, I always get in the last word—yes dear! What a hoot.
Times change folks (i.e. we have good times
and bad times). A pickleball friend who
was very instrumental with my connections to play pickleball here in the valley
doesn’t play anymore. He has blood clots in his lungs and in his
legs. Times change folks. He has had to make some adjustments in
his life style. That is normal folks. I told him that my agenda here
in the Valley of the Sun is to take care of Arlene. Everything after that
is a bonus. I have some opportunities to play pb and golf and other stuff. I will
probably do some of those things; I will pick my times. But times are different folks.
Pickleball and golf and stuff really aren’t that important compared to my Arlene.
You understand that? I will try to do whatever it takes to make her life the best.
That is my challenging objective. The change in times has probably changed/will change my life
style. And that is ok. Really it is. I hope I succeed with things that matter to me and not with things that don't (i.e. that is hard to put in proper perspective sometimes). Ya gotta remember that I'm just a little old farm boy from a mile and a fourth south of Roseland, MN.
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I am trying to use this month here in
the Valley of the Sun as a month-long Sabbath. Yep, that is how I’m treating
our time here. It is hard to do,
really. BUT it is good for everyone and
maybe especially for me. And listen, we
have been here in the Valley of the Sun for several years sooooo it ain’t a no
new rodeo for us folks; we’re no newbies. In Alaska, Canada and SW U.S., they call
veterans, sourdoughs. They call rookies
in Alaska and NW Canada cheechakos I was told. ANYWAY--We
have been there and done that a time or two. You probably understand what I’m
talking about. I talked to four friends
recently. They all told me that they are ready to go home. They miss their
home and their family. We were invited
to go to the Dutton’s (i.e. a Branson music production that performs here in the
winter) with George and Jane (i.e. Arlene really likes their show). You home
town folks will recognize them. ANYWAY I
asked them if they were going back to our home town this summer—Probably but
don’t know when and how long; we really don’t have much to go back for (i.e. maybe their family is gone and most of their friends are dead or not the same). Sooooo I wonder where they consider
home.
Hawthorne Bronne, the author of the book Choosing Happiness
(i.e. I have not read it) says--I am a happy person. That is my best credential
for writing this book. In the past year, I've asked dozens of people if
they are happy. Guess how many quickly and with enthusiasm said they
were. None! A few people said, "Yeah, I guess." Others
extended their answers by telling me they could be happier "if
only..." …Happiness is neither guaranteed nor automatic, but neither
is it impossible. Even if you have never enjoyed this special sense of well-being
and fulfillment, it is not a fantasy. Happiness is yours to claim ––if you
don't get detoured! Many people have chosen different paths in search of
happiness, but too few have found it. …The key question of this book is,
"Are you happy?" If you are not, do not waste time with dead-end
roads that lead to frustration instead of fulfillment. Make the choice to be
happy, beginning today! DorthyMadhead says—That statement is completely from a
different planet; it doesn’t work on this planet. Believe me!
I ain’t happy and never have been.
I’m 100% bitchy and I love it! Hey DorthyMadhead, this is what Marcus Aurelius said--
"The circumstances of life, the events of life, and the
people around me in life, do not make me the way I am, but reveal the way I
am" ~ Dr. Sam Peeples. I hope while being here in the Valley of the Sun
that out of the clear blue sky (i.e. there are a lot of them here) I will learn
to Rejoice in the Lord always; I will say it again: Rejoice! Yessiree! I need a
lot of hand holding to constantly feel this way!!!!
RichieRich says--Darn.
Behavioural change is tough. For snowbirds here in the Valley of the Sun
it can be especially painful because behaviours (good and bad) get ingrained
over time. We also lose our objectivity as we get older – our perceptions
are our reality. As a result, as we age we find more reasons to avoid
change than embrace it.
I read this while eating my oatmeal with a half a banana on
it--According to the journal Science Advances, researchers in Spain
conducted a study of the personality types of 540 people and grouped them into
four categories: optimistic, pessimistic, trusting, and envious. The first
three groups represented sixty percent of the total, and another ten percent
were impossible to define. The remainder, the largest single group, was made up
of people whose personalities were dominated by envy, though they usually
didn’t recognize it.
I
watch the folks play golf as we sit on our patio. They all seem to have on their nice golf
outfits on, some ridding in their customized golf carts, and most playing with
the best equipment. They all seem sooooo
happy and excited. Many of them play
with their spouses and friends (i.e. Arlene and I use to do that). I get a little envious but then remember what
my mentor use to say to me—erv, nothing is as good as it looks and nothing is
as bad as it looks (i.e. probably not as rosy as it looks folks). I am pretty
content; I really am. My new saying that
I try to apply to every day of my life is—I try to enjoy life’s process every day.
AvergeJoe says—That sounds sooooo
simple. Yes, it is; slow down erv and
just enjoy the moment. I’m really
working on it. Soooo far sooooo gooood. BUT it isn’t really
a normal way of life for me. Time will
tell how I hold up!
We enjoy our time in the Valley of the Sun with it’s 80+
degree blue bird days with very little wind.
It fits us just real well. We are
very laid back doing what we want to do when we want to do them (i.e. we pick
our shots; we have options). That is
pretty much our course. Arlene and I
went to have a bagel the other morning.
I was waiting in line and Judy started talking to me (i.e. the
opportunity just fell in my lap)—I just dropped my husband off at adult day care
and am treating myself—what is your husband’s situation—he has Alzheimer’s—I’m splurging
and I need some time alone; this care giving is very hard for me; very
stressful; very tiring; very depleting; my husband’s personality has changed and he’s not very nice; he
accuses me of have an affair with everyone; I can’t leave him alone; I don’t
enjoy it a bit; he has had it for 8.5 years; I have gained 15 pounds
because of stress in the last 3 weeks. She
said most of my family and friends do not understand. We moved here to the Valley to be around his
children; it hasn’t worked very well—how come—they all have their lives and are
busy. We compared some notes. We both
knew what the other was saying. Times change in our lives alright. Such is
life.
I have talked to several folks down here in the Valley of
the Sun that are injured. It's maybe just
happens but they all said that the reason why they are injured is over doing
their activities. Moderation my friends,
moderation. Moderation in all things except in eating green beans, fish, having sex
with your spouse, and loving others.
ANYWAY when our bodies get older, they can’t take the usage that they
use to take. They will respond (i.e. our
bodies have their ways folks).
GeorgeTheLover (i.e. he is aging like fine wine) says—You got to listen to your body. Ya, there is Vigra…but when you are 80,
there are limits folks)
As I said, I don’t know much but I learned what a “get” is (i.e. two
definitions). Ya, I read about it in the
paper. Do you know what a “get” is? Ha ha, I might know something you don’t
know. TheWY-Champ says--Aw wee grasshopper erv, I know that!
Have a FUN day my friends unless you have other plans. (-:
MyFriendJean says--Out of clutter find simplicity.
P.S. Whenever you
attempt a good work you will find other men doing the same kind of work, and
probably doing it better. Envy them not.
~ Henry Drummond
WorldClassLarry
says--Stop buying stuff. Start buying
time.
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