My podcast is with my friend, Bill Hansen. Our conversation is about his experience, emotions and feelings of losing his 46-year old daughter, Darla, to cancer.
I talked to a brother-in-law by phone recently—It went like this—how are you doing erv—I’m ok—what has changed; I have never known you to be ok! Sooooo take that into consideration when reading this “It’s Saturday.”
I talked to a brother-in-law by phone recently—It went like this—how are you doing erv—I’m ok—what has changed; I have never known you to be ok! Sooooo take that into consideration when reading this “It’s Saturday.”
OneSmartGuy/friend called his son commonsencicle a.k.a. street smart. Now that is a nice compliment
(i.e. my opinion). I know this young man. I think he is also intelligent and has a good heart and has
a nice personality. My opinion is that
these qualities make a good combination.
NoEmotionsBernie says—My exterior blandness masks a burning fire but you
don’t have a clue what that burning fire might be. I will not tip my hat to you; it’s an
internal thing. Ok NoEmotionsBernie, I
would guess there are others who feel like you.
I wonder folks when you read that statement, if you think their burning
fire is something bad or something good.
It probably depends if your burning fire is something good or something
bad I would guess. A friend recently told
me his burning fire which was a decision about an exciting opportunity. He told me that it felt soooo good to tell me
about it (i.e. vocalize it with someone—he did not have that opportunity to do
that before for reasons). Many times, as
crazy as it sounds, it’s harder to share something good that is happening to
you than something bad. The reason
is—You have to have a very good friend to share something good in your life as
most folks think you are bragging. A
very good friend will not have that feeling and will be glad for you. That sounds very commonsencicle but many
folks really aren’t happy for you when good happens to you. In fact, they would rather see something bad
happen to you. It’s crazy folks but that
is the way it is. It’s called jealousy. WildWillie says—90% of the folks don’t care
about your problems and the other 10% are glad you have them! OneSmartPerson says--Pain shared is pain
divided. Joy shared is joy multiplied. Saturday question—Is it a privilege to
share in the pain of others, along with their joys?
JoeBlow
says--There seem to be a lot of unpredictability in life. LuckieEddie says—Even if the reviews say it’s
good, it might not be. Now we have “fake
reviews” just like “fake news.” Sooooo
how am I to know what to believe. SusieQ
says—I’m constantly being brainwashed, and I don’t even know it. Maybe we need to be commonsencicle about some
things. But, it seems like everyone is
trying to manipulate us to make a buck or to get more power or something (i.e.
gotcha). It’s really hard to know what
or who to believe. CadillacJack
says—Soooo why do folks say—to be honest with you, or they say--to tell the
truth…? Soooo does that mean that the
other times they are not being honest or are not telling you the truth? Or why do we swear to tell the truth in
court? Does that mean that most folks
don’t tell the truth all the time (i.e. like being two faced)? Sooooo do you and I tell the truth? I have an acquaintance who half of the time is lying and the other half of the time doesn't tell the truth! But honestly, the rest of the time he is
telling the truth; I believe everything he says! Such is life.
A friend told me recently that he was buying a new
vehicle. He was in the Twin Cities where
there is a dealer that advertises the best prices anywhere; you can’t find a
better price; we will blow the socks off of any other dealer; we can’t be beat;
you don’t have to shop around (i.e. they were putting lipstick on a pig). Sooooo my
friend went there but bought his vehicle at a dealer locally for $8,000
less. Da! This last week I got my cell
phone bill. It was $20 higher that my
normal price. I called them and asked
why. They gal said—I added the figures
up and they are right—I agree but it is $20 higher that I normally pay—I will
check it out—I can’t figure it out—I can’t either; I will just credit your
account for $20. That was funny to
me. Folks, it is commomsencicle to not
believe what others say and to shop around and ask questions. Such is life.
An old college friend who I played basketball with, ended
his blog this way--So I end this writing with God's promise through the prophet
Isaiah, "Fear not, for I am with you. Be not discouraged for I am your
God. I will help you, I will strengthen you. I will uphold you with my strong
(or victorious) right hand." For me it is enough. I pray it might be for
you as well. Is that statement commonsencicle to you? That is what I thought.
It would appear to the AverageJoes that politicians are not
commonsencicle; more like they will say or do whatever it takes to get reelected
(i.e. it’s all about the money folk).
Then add the radical extremists with all their hysteria (i.e. who don’t
seem to have any commonsencicle) to the pot, well, folks, we have a mess. Then you add the greed and illegal activity
going on and I have no idea if we will ever get anything done from now on. The solution is to give everyone what they
want (i.e. everyone makes their want list and give it to the government). Now that ought to work. ha ha Maybe that is why the history of the
world is “wars and rumors of war.” Could
be.
Folks
have different sensibilities than others.
Some folks are just more sensible than others. They can just feel how others feel a.k.a.
called empathy. And there are others who
have no serious empathy—they are just cold, boiler plate folks with no real
heart or emotions a.k.a. apathy. Their
relationships are more like a business account (i.e. all about me and how much
they can get out of the relationship—pretty phony a.k.a. DuaneTheWorm phony,
programed and canned). The other
morning, I had a college friend call me who I haven’t talked to maybe in 8
years. That same morning friends from AZ
called that never called me before. A
little later a college friend emailed me that doesn’t do it very often. A
long-time friend then called me who hardly never calls me. What is going on. I was wondering if I was going to die that
day or something! These folks have empathy
(i.e. very real folks with good hearts—very sensitive). What a joy it was to talk to them all. I have to admit, it was crazy! Just fun crazy!
I read what OneSmartGuy said while eating my oatmeal with
half a banana on it--Praying for others, concern for their spiritual
well-being, and desire to have an eternal difference in their lives is
important to me. My focus these days is simple: Relationships. Sadly, the vast
majority of relationships most of us have are superficial. There is little if
any personal investment. We take from them what we need and then move on. You
know what? This makes our spiritual enemy smile. He loves relationships, as
long as they are superficial and meaningless. Because his strategy is simple:
deceive, divide, and destroy. Ouchy ouchy!
I had
breakfast with an old college friend that I haven’t seen for a number of
years. We each drove over an hour and
met half way. We really had a good
time. I like this guy (i.e. he is unique
alright). He and I have always got along
and share (i.e. he shared his heart about his current situation). He also shared that he finally figured out
one of his family who he didn’t get along with. He said--I just went to his
funeral; I figured it out. I figured out
that I did not really ever hate him but we were just different. Sooooooo I asked him--Friend, why did you get
it figured out now—I think age and circumstances in my life made me wiser. Now that is commonsencicle folks.
I
learned a couple of things recently that are sorta kinda commonsencicle but I
never thought about them before.
OneSmartBigSkyRanchCowboy told me that there are left-handed lassos and
right-hand lassos. What? Yep, the lassos are wound different soooo
they coil differently and make a perfect loop to throw (i.e. for lefties and
righties). I didn’t know that. Maybe he
was just fooling with me head (i.e. spurring me on); I don’t know; maybe he
just had a lot of fresh cow crap/chips on his cowboy boots! ANYWAY, I asked
him if he’s good at using the lariat—better on the ground than on a horse; my
Dad is a better roper than I am (i.e. his dad wears a big cowboy hat and
actually owns a lot of cattle—a real rancher).
I don’t know if this OneSmartBigtSkyRanchCowboy chews tobacco and is a
good spitter; I didn’t see any juice on his lip!
I believe what RickyRick says (i.e. it seems
to me to be pretty commonsencicle)—“Significance does not come from status or a hood
ornament on your car or a logo on your shirt. Significance does not come from a
bigger salary. Significance does not come from sex. Significance comes
from service. Significance comes when you start thinking about other people
more than yourself and you give your life away. You cannot be selfish and
significant at the same time. The Bible says in 1 Peter 4:10, “Each
of you has received a gift to use to serve others” (NCV).” A major
question I ask myself many times is—Am I really serving others enough or am I
just one big old selfish guy (i.e. a DuaneTheWorm self-centered person)? I wonder as I wander!!!! Compared to the
perfect example, I’m way short! Way
short! Not even close. WorldClassLarry
says--Figure out what portion of daily drudgery people need to have out of
their lives and offer to take it off their plate! Just make someone’s live easier would be
quite a help. IickieVickie says—I have
enough problems in my own life to help others with their problems; my life is
about me and I like it that way.
A veryniceandsweetgal, who was my student
maybe 45 years ago was in church Sunday.
She is a retired Registered Nurse and they winter in FL. She was telling me that she started a sorta
kinda meals on wheels in their park along with an in-park restaurant. She said it takes a lot of work but some retired
folks decide not to help. They say—I
have done all my volunteering; my life is now all about me to enjoy! Each their own!
Have you ever noticed that when you don’t care what happens,
your interest is way different (e.g. watching a sports event and you don’t care
who wins). When we are emotionally attached (i.e. have a dog in the fight), we
have a way different perspective and attitude.
I heard about an acquaintance who has a serious health problem and I
felt bad for them but my feelings for Arlene is different than my feelings for
that person. I felt bad that I felt that
way but after some thought, I decided that it is normal and correct. Does that make any sense to you? That is what I thought. It’s just commonsencicle I think!
Things seem soooo commonsencicle but we
don’t do them sometimes. This is from my
big sister (i.e. big in only age--she is a neat person with a good heart; my
kind of person)--This situation in my life touched
me. The first Christmas Eve we were here in MI we went to church for
services and as we left the church everyone was greeting each other
-- however, we walked out and had not received a Merry Christmas.
I was crushed. Snow had fallen while in church -- a
beautiful sight in the parking lot. As we approached our car, a man
was brushing the snow off our windshield. He greeted us with Merry
Christmas and left. To this day I do not know who he was but his gesture
turned my Christmas around.
Have a FUN day my friends unless you have other plans. (-:
erv
MyFriendJean says—A handful of patience is worth more than a
bushel of brains.
P.S. "I’m a
great believer in luck, and I find the harder I work the more I have of
it." - Thomas Jefferson
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