singin'

You are maybe thinking about singin’ Auld Lang Syne as you bring in the new year.  Our new year eve activities sure were different through the years.  Some rather wild and some not soooo much or not at all.  Beware—Trust me Joesixpack, no matter how much alcohol you drink, you are never going to be a good singer.  Trust me. You might think you are really a good singer, but trust me, you are not. Your singin’ is just way terrible! Or as Kristin says—Singin’ just isn’t in your toolhouse!

  

A gal told me the other day that she doesn’t like to think about the future because she knows it will be just like her bad past!  Yikes!  It appears that many folks think about change going into a new year. MissPerfect says--Change can be painful but there is nothing as painful as being stuck somewhere that you don’t belong.  Usually change will not happen until it gets really really bad and even then, many times change won’t happen. Many folks will rather endure the pain they are experiencing (i.e. pain they are comfortable with) than run the risk of the uncertain possible future pain even though there is a big chance that all the pain will go away (i.e. be a champion for life).  Coach says—"Sometimes some folks are singin’ the blues in that they think their future is going to be the same as their past” (i.e. folks do this when their past isn’t necessarily soooooo great).  And you know what, it won’t be different if they don’t make some changes.  Soooo all of us need to think about changing or modifying our attitudes, actions, believes, etc. or we will be right, our future will be our past deja vue all over again.”  DizzyBabe says—I like my past soooo I’m going toooo continue doing my past!  That works for me! DizzyBabe, don’t you get bored doing the same old thing all the time? Don’t you want to improve? DizzyBabe says—no no, I don’t want to change.

I read this in a book that is fiction—And fate would sort itself out. Saturday question—Where do you fit into that statement?  I know for sure that some of you believe in total predestination and on the other end, I know for sure that some of you believe that everything is just luck.  How do I know that? Well, some of you told me what you believe.  And I know for sure that some of you believe in the middle somewhere.  Some of you tell me that you are going to heaven or hell when you die and some of you tell me you are going to die like a pig.  In those two scenarios, someone has to be wrong I would guess.  Before Christmas I was talking to our daughter, Heather, about how I put up some Christmas decorations in our house.  When our super cleaning gal/friend came to clean, I asked her if she could rearrange the decorations a little which she did.  I think it really looks great; I really like it and it makes me feel good (i.e. probably no one will see the decorations but me).  Sooooo what, if it works for me, who cares; they uplift me.  A friend called and told me that one of the family did not handle a death in their family very well. She thinks that maybe she doesn’t have much faith in God and that is a big difference.  Seeee, we all think differently; we are all singin’ our own belief.  Sooooo is there a God or isn’t there a God?  One has to be right and one has to be wrong! WorldClassLarry says—Now that is black and white; some day when the gonger gongs (i.e. as a friend says), we will all know for sure! This is really interesting to me.  

Football Hall of Famer Brian Dawkins has been open about his mental health struggles, including bouts with depression. He sought medical help, but he also turned to Christ. “That is my No. 1 pillar,” Dawkins said. “That’s just the pinnacle of me, my faith, my belief in the Lord…. Everything else may move. My emotions may go up and down. People around me disappoint me. But that’s something that will never disappoint me.”  I was invited by a friend some years ago to go to several AA meetings with him.  I was very impressed with AA’s structure and belief.  They believe in a higher power which is very important to their recovering process.  I have been told that if folks don’t buy into that believe, the success rate is about nil.  Huh, interesting.

There is sooooo much that I don’t know; a whole lot.  Some things I just accept. JoeBlow (i.e. who runs the speed route very well) says—erv, if you try to figure everything out, you are going to be a mess; it’s impossible to figure everything out; it’s beyond the human mind (i.e. both what we consider good and what we consider bad).  CadillacJack says—erv, folks have been struggling with this thinking forever; nuttin has changed; you are not going to be the one to figure it out.  I’m not into the 70s funk music but Coach used the song Good Thoughts, Bad Thoughts in one of his YouTube inspirationals. I like the lyrics.  One of the lines says—Free your mind and your a___ will follow.  I do believe when I spend time cultivating my mind, my life is a lot better.  It’s not that I necessarily know more answers, but I think I understand one of my favorite lines better which is—His understanding I cannot fathom. 

A very senior friend sits at the same table at the local restaurant seemly like every day I’m there.  I have known him for probably 45 years.  He is a very nice, good guy and he invites me to sit with him many days.  I usually am eating with a friend soooo don’t but do usually always talk to him.  Recently a buddy of his was there with him and they expressed sympathy to me about Arlene’s Alzheimer’s.  I said something to the effect to him that both of you guys have gone through a lot of tough stuff in your lives (i.e. both have experienced a lot of tough stuff but outwardly seemed to have handled it well); you know all about it.  They went off like a firecracker singin’ how life is just unfair as it seems like some folks have no tough issues and some have sooooo many.  I said—Ya, it seems that way, but you have tooooo remember the only thing that is fair is the Butler County Fair and that is in June.  They laughed, outwardly anyway.  They still have some deep scares, for sure. Do any of you relate to any of this conversation? That is what I thought.

You might just be singin’ along but others are looking to you for guidance and you are their example.  You are their “go-to.” In some cases, you might not even know it and other cases, you don’t really want to be.  Yikes!  Recently I told this to a couple who I think are “go to” folks.  I think they sensed it before I told them.  I do.  JoeBlow says--Now that can be a lot of responsibility.  To some yes, to them not really; all they have to do is be themselves and they will.  They are good, real folks with good hearts—my kind of folks, just like many of you guys (i.e. the type of folks I like to be around).  Thanksamillion for your friendship you “go to” folks. ItchieBitchie says this—If you see good in others, they start to see the good in themselves toooo maybe; I don’t think we need to spell it out, well, tooooo some maybe but they still won’t get it (i.e. some folks are more intuitive than others).  Such is life.

I recently had conversations with friends that were very interesting.  These friends were singin’ their opinions alright (i.e. everyone has an opinion about everything).  Don’t kid yourself; if some folks’ opinions are not the same as your opinion, it really doesn’t matter! haha  Most folks don’t agree on most everything or anything; you ever notice that. ANYWAY, many folks say they are open minded; they are not!  Most folks are hilarious!   Soooo I tried to start a conversation with a friend sorta kinda generically but pointed; they started acting almost crazy at first.  They claim to be open minded (i.e. but only if everyone agrees with them).  In some ways that is a put down to me; I feel they are saying they know everything and I don’t know anything. Another friend said to me—erv, I think I have become more liberal as I got older—why do you think that—well, I am on different committees and speak with folks from all over the state who have different ideas; I have learned to listen to the other side (i.e. I want to know where they are coming from); my husband isn’t that way; he has coffee every morning with his same old cronies who all think the same!  Another friend told me that he thinks their church has become more liberal—why—I think we have become more kind and loving and accepting; not as much legalistic and traditional!  Oh!  Great conversations, my opinion.

Our 7-year old Rookie told us at his birthday that he didn’t want any more socks, he wanted something fun! Well, you got most of the Christmas gifts opened and some of you are signin’ the blues ‘cause you didn’t get what you wanted; you expected something different; something bigger (i.e. even if you won’t admit it).  Well, that ain’t nutting new!  Baby Jesus was rejected by most of his own folks.  Why? One reason for this rejection is that he didn’t meet their expectations of what the Messiah a.k.a. Savior should be. They wanted a king to slay their foes and lift them up.  They didn’t want a little baby. WildWillie says—Yabut, sometimes great presents come in little packages! The older I get, the more I like the Christmas story (i.e. maybe because of lot of reasons). 

This pic was on a college friend’s Facebook.  It was from a local school that a teacher put up.  It applies to all of us.  Soooo correct (i.e. my opinion).  If you don’t get it, well, you won’t get it.  Life has a lot of decisions and guess who gets to make all those decisions.  Aren’t we fortunate to form much of our own life (i.e. my opinion)!  What an opportunity.  I really like opportunities.  I pray for opportunities, I pray that I recognize them and I pray that I have the courage to act on them.  If you don’t get it, well, you won’t get it.

If you are a DuaneTheWorm person, you won’t want to read this; just skip to the next paragraph.  Martin Luther King Jr. said—The most persistent and urgent question in life is, what are you doing for others.  DuaneTheWorms are never concerned about others but only themselves; even if they act like they are, they are not; they only do things to self-glorify themselves (i.e. that is always there real motive).  Don’t kid yourself.  And you know what, there is a good chance that we are all DuaneTheWorms to some degree (i.e. my opinion).  We like to sit on the couch eating chips telling ourselves how great we are (i.e. some folks more than others for sure).  You guys are not much DuaneTheWorms except for maybe one of you; you know who you are!  haha 

JoeSmart (i.e. he is a one person special interest group) says—Many folks like to show off their make believe self!

WorldClassLarry says this about 2020—Just remember, you can’t unring the bell!  So be careful about what your signin’ in 2020! 

This “It’s Saturday” could turn into a party; a real ruckus!  It’s time to turn out the lights.  It’s a new year.  Oh well then, let the party begin! I like parties!  I had a new party experience Christmas eve; we went to the Red Rock at 5 (i.e. that is a church in Littleton, CO folks) and then dinner with James, Heather, Erin and Jimmer and then to the speedway for a light show. Now that was a different Christmas Eve for sure.  I sooooo much loved to be with them for Christmas Eve.  Great opportunity!

Talk about change in 202O—The RedRockChurchAt5Service was their 8^th Christmas program on 5 campuses including one in TX and one in Belgium.  Wow!  Not many gray hairs at the service; very high energy service.  How about this—Tomorrow they are not having services at their campuses—they call it their HangOverService; an on-line service in your pajamas.  Many folks in Butler County might think this is crazy.  They worship about 6,000 folks each Sunday (i.e. started about 15 years ago).  Da!

The service’s message was about being patient which will give us peace in a high anxiety, stressful life we live (i.e. a real serious problem in our culture)—patience gives us peace—peace is a practice, a path and not a destination—Peace is already given to us—we can have Peace in any and all situations—peace is a fruit of the Spirit—what you think about is your future—what are you thinking about?--the Christmas story gives us Peace on Earth and peace in our hearts.  Heather said the gal sitting next to her cried most of the service.  Why? Heather had no idea!

The day after Christmas we went skiing at Copper Mt. to get rid of some stress.  haha  Actually it’s a lot of work to ski with two children (i.e. not a lot of peace; can create a lot of stress haha).  James and Heather have their skiing organization down to a science but it’s still tiring and that isn’t even the skiing part.  And then they also had to put up with me! 

Have a FUN day my friends unless you have other plans. (-:

erv

MyFriendJean says—How much did Santa have to pay for parking his sleigh—nothing; it was on the house!

strong constitution

You can bet your boots on it; this dossier is no malarkey; maybe juiced up a little but no malarkey!

Jiminy Christmas!  Do you know what that means?  How about the meaning Jimmy Cricket?  I have tooooo admit that I didn’t until I researched it. I did it because of what a friend wrote on her Christmas card in reference to the death of her husband who was also our friend.  She wrote--…I am grateful and trying to listen to my “Jimmy Cricket”: savior each day. Onewiseperson (i.e. I don’t think it was one of the original wise men) once said—Learning makes a person fit company for themselves.

There is another Arlene in town that walks her dog every morning no matter what the weather is.  She has a strong constitution alright.  And I think she does in again in the afternoon.  It looks to me that some days her constitution is stronger than her dog’s as it seems like she needs to drag her dog sometimes (i.e. I think the dog says—this lady is crazy). haha

Some folks think MissPerfect has a very strong constitution; some even might think her constitution is wrong.   And she can get really hot expressing her strong constitution.  Sooooo hot that she will perspire in the middle of an IA winter.  JoeBlow says—MissPerfect could strip down naked and she would still be hot (i.e. I would rather not see that sight)—and I don’t think her hotness has anything to do with her mentopause hot flashes either.  Some folks with Alzheimer’s will strip naked but they don’t know what they are doing.  JoeBlow says—Maybe MissPerfect doesn’t either.   

We have to have a strong constitution when it appears we are going through a period of time in which nothing seems to be going our way.  I need a little boast of my confidence to keep me sustained.  It doesn’t need to be much and can be something from a strange source.  I’m not saying you folks are strange, oh no! haha  Sooooo if I need a boast once in a while, I assume you do as well and I’m almost certain that we aren’t different than anyone else (i.e. we aren’t strange I don’t think) sooooo others probably need a little boast of their confidence as well.  What do you think?  That is what I thought. Soooo just an idea folks, maybe you and I need to be a little strange and affect someone in a strange way!  

This picture is very interesting to me.  I see stuff there and hear stuff there that is soooo symbolic of soooooo much stuff (i.e. my opinion).  What does it mean to you?  ItchieBitchie says—I really learned something when I learned to listen really better instead of pretending that I’m listening.  Another thing I learned was when I learned to listen instead of talking (i.e. for some of us that is harder than for others) I learn more.  Yikes, I hate that when I like to listen to myself talk (i.e. trying to impress others in what I think I know).  It appears we can learn a lot more when listening to others instead of trying to force our opinions on others (i.e. ask questions instead of talking about our self). SusieQ says--Big people do that; little folks try to impress others.  EgotisticalJoe says—Yabut, I know everything, and I need to tell everyone else how much I know!  Ouchy ouchy!  You might think that EgotisticalJoe, but pretty soon you probably won’t have an audience (i.e. you will be the only person around the eggnog bowl; the rest will say they have to go to the bathroom). To be blunt EgotisticalJoe—Folks get tired of you telling them how great you are and how you know everything. Maybe for all of us it is better to be a Learn-It-All instead of a Know-It-All.  What do you think?  That is what I thought.

WorldClassLarry says—It is the right thing to do! We all need to be considerate to our family, friends, acquaintances etc. even though they have strong constitutions (i.e. which might be wrong at least from our perspective) during Christmas. Yes, some do seem to way off base, but they don’t think sooooo.  It seems it might be even harder to deal with them when they are family.  BUT then again maybe they are right, and we are wrong; maybe they know what they are talking about and we don’t.  JoeSmart says--BUT how can they vote for that person; I’ll never know; they must be crazy (i.e. that is your opinion JoeSmart)! GerogeTheCrook says—erv, you don’t know my brother-in-law; he wears a big cowboy hat but has no cattle.  Folks, it’s Christmas, I think we need to have a strong mettle.

I said to Charlie recently—Did you get some new glasses—no no, these are my back up pair; I lost my good pair.  Her father said—That is a sore subject!  Sooooo folks, there might be some “sore subjects” around the Christmas table that probably should be avoided (e.g. your mother-in-law is wacko). Sooooo try to be gentle, you have no idea what they have been crying about even though their outside appearance looks ok.  JoeSixPack says—Everyone is battling something; maybe you just don’t know it.  MissPerfect says—A BATTLE!  I have many battles I’m involved with; folks have no idea.  A maybe 25ish gal was sitting next to me as I was changing my shoes at pickleball the other morning (i.e. my impression of her is that she is soooo sweet and real).  She told me that she didn’t sleep much last night as she was battling some skin  irritation that happens this time of the year because of the low humidity.  Seeeee, I would have never known that if she didn’t tell me. As I was leaving Monday, I asked a pb friend how is everything--alright; erv, really it's not alright; my husband has dementia symptoms.  We had a visit. For some folks, holidays can be a depressing time for many reasons (i.e. if they don’t tell you or you aren’t very observant, you will never know).  MyBigSister (i.e. only in age) said to me (i.e. being real)--Thanksgiving  and Christmas we think should be this Martha Stewart  perfect occasion. Hey folks, it is what it is!  Oh they found the glasses; they were in Charlie's coat pocket that went through the washer and dryer; they are nice and clean! Why did her parents get soooo excited; they’re all cleaned up! No problem!

They have a strong constitution!  An elderly gal, more elderly than me, called me recently very upset.  I felt sorry for her.  She told me why she was sooooo upset.  I listened.  I told her I can’t fix it but maybe try to be patient; it might take some time, but it might change.  She said the worst part is the person “just doesn’t get it.”  She said she was going to pray for me and wanted me to pray for her.  We both agreed we would.  There seems toooo be folks who are deal killers.  DealMarkerEdward says—It’s best to keep those kind of folks out of the picture.  Getting back to my friend who called me—It’s nice that she cares soooo much that she gets upset but maybe it might be better for her to put it behind her and just move on; find something that she is comfortable with.  BUT that is hard for the elderly.  Why do you think that is?  That is what I thought.

I really like to give gifts; I think many of you do toooo.  May I tell you a little about my gift giving?  I really like to give gifts to folks who appreciate them at a time they don’t expect it and I like to do it anonymously most of the time.  Why?  I don’t know other than it makes me feel good.  And when I do, I like to forget about it as soon as I can.  Is that crazy or what?  I think our attitude about giving is really important; almost as important as the gift itself.  Think about this—When Jesus was born, he was born into a humble manger and it was told to the shepherd boys (i.e. the lowest of low).  No high-profile announcement like bonging the gong or a special on CBS.  I really like that.   

When at our grandkids’ piano recital which was at a financial office, I noticed a gong they had hanging in the room. I called their office and asked to talk to the owner/founder as I wanting to know if this was a decoration or had some significance.  I got his assistant who said—The clients bong the gong when they reach a certain goal (i.e. a very creative idea). Then everyone comes out and supports them. It is solely the founders/owner’s idea.  Traditionally, chau gongs were used to clear the way for important officials and processions, much like a police siren today. That is how DuaneTheWorm would like it (i.e. bong the gong loudly), a lot of attention, noise, glamour, etc. but that’s not the way God did it.  I really like how Jesus came into the world in such a humble way.  My Daddy, Chester, said—erv, if you are good, you don’t have to tell anyone, they will know. I just love the story of Christmas. Many of you, I know, are very humble and don’t like “bong the gong” attention.  I think you are special (i.e. my opinion).  Such is life.

Hey, it is what it is!  For what it’s worth, I read this in the paper soooo it must be right that students have two qualities that make them prime targets of propaganda efforts.  They are smart and they are very impressionable.  They have literally been taught to believe what they have been taught.  Here comes Santa Claus led by Rudolf the Red Nose Reindeer.  Believe that kids.  Then the next sentence the parents tell them to believe in Baby Jesus who was born to virgin Mary who grew up and died on the cross, rose from the dead, sits on the right hand of God and who ever believes in Him will have eternal life. Now that makes it hard for kids to know what is true and what isn’t (i.e. like what is real news and what is fake news).  Maybe.  ItchieBitchie says--Then we all get older and get burnt a few times, we won’t believe hardly anything or anyone anymore.  LuckieEddie says—Give them some time and they’ll figure it out; we all did or are still trying toooo or maybe might some day! God only knows! Idon’tknowHarry says—We will have to have another investigation and report done for sure! haha See, folks believe anything if they are taught toooo!  Such is life.

JimMyMan—I just got my 12th calendar along with an envelope to give to another organization.  How many have you got toooooo date?  I gave a little to this organization.  I like them and also what they said.  See, those pretty, little marketing gals know what they are doing! haha  ANYWAY, JimMyMan, this organization stresses that you and I and everyone can be a “divine drop in.” They define a “divine drop in” as a person who drops into a person’s life, unannounced and from seemingly out of nowhere, and changed their life’s course forever.  Is that really possible JimMyMan?  At your age of 88, you have been around the block a few times.  You oughta know! You seem to have stuck to your guns (i.e. they are still smokin’)!

I like Christmas traditions and when I think about them; they make me smile. Many of those thoughts are about traditions of Christmas eating (i.e. like eating dinkoballs).  Eating together has long been a tradition of love and friendship.  BUT, my opinion, they should never be more important than the love and kindness shown to people around our tables. Soooooo this Christmas, as we pray, let us ask Jesus to cleanse our hearts of any impure motivations or attitudes. JoeBlow says—Yikes, that will take a lot of praying for me; my potatoes will get cold!

Here is a picture that a lot can be read into.  Everyone might have a different thought about it.  ANYWAY, you folks on Medicare, this might be a good purchase for Christmas.  It might put some more pajazz into your life and also raise your blood pressure.  Maybe I’m reading way toooooo much into this pic. haha

C.S. Lewis said--Once in our world, a stable had something in it that was bigger than our world.

Dr.J says--Don’t let the “loudness” of the Christmas season overwhelm your quiet times with God. Live and sleep during this season in “heavenly peace.”

DoubtingWilbur a.k.a. cousinEddie'sbrother says—I believe the Christmas story and I don’t believe it; it’s really a struggle for me; I have my own little combo-belief!  BUT I don’t believe in Santa Claus! Even if you question parts of the Jesus story or you don't celebrate it, remember, Jesus is the reason for the season.  Arlene and I really like the Christmas Jesus story; we believe it.  Merry Christmas to you all from Arlene and me. 

Have a FUN day my friends unless you have other plans. (-:

erv

MyFriendJean says—It is a lot easier to stay out of trouble than to get out of trouble.

off the hook

You may treat me like you treat JoeSmith when he calls you about your extended warranty on your car!  I understand.  I know even less than JoeSmith.  In fact, all of you know a lot more than I do; no question about it.  But if you think you need more scoop, call your brother-in-law or is it your sister-in-law; one of them seems to know everything; and its free advice.  I’m just a little ol’ farm boy from a mile and a fourth south of Roseland, MN who caught a break at good ol’ Northwestern College when I met my sweet, little Arlene.  I think it was because of the prayers of my Mom, Anna.  I do.  I realize that some of you won’t believe that either. Soooo get your cup of coffee and have a few more laughs at me.

The phlebotomists for the Red Cross told me that she is real close to getting her BA in Public Health—what do you do with that major—I want to work for the government in some office; but I’m going on to get my MA in management; I’m an organizer and I’m a bossy person soooooo I think they all fit together (i.e. she made me lol).  Soooo I went tooooo the canteen and a junior at University of Northern IA (i.e. the site was at the Health and Wellness Center on campus) came and talked to me.  She is majoring in Real Estate; she wants to be a real estate salesperson.  She had 26 credits from high school.  Wow! She told me that her parents are divorced, in fact, she comes from a large family and all her family (i.e. grandparents and all her uncle and aunts are all divorced).  How come.  She didn’t know but her parents got married at 18 and her dad is very stubborn.  She said—My family dynamics creates an interesting Christmas.

I woke up at 5 and decided I was not going to play pickleball the other morning.  I just didn’t feel like it sooooo I went back to sleep. Got up at 6, made my coffee and watched it get light out.  I felt way different this morning.  Why? I have no idea.  Crazy!  Some things that have been irritating me didn’t irritate me this morning. Why? I have no idea.  I just sat there and enjoyed the moment.  Crazy! I left some folks off the hook (i.e. in my mind) that I question.  It really made me feel good.  Way good!  Crazy!  They probably don’t even care what I think but it bothered me; but not anymore.  My mind is clean.  Crazy! I just gave myself a great gift.  Why?  I have no idea! Well, maybe I do.  I wonder if it’s a culmination of many years of learning by experience and thinking and reading and praying.  But I’m not sure.  It can’t be proven.  Maybe I just don’t care anymore!  Could be! Or it could be the vegetable soup I ate last night from the Soup Lady!  Now that makes more sense.  I bet she put something in it that I don’t know about; like love and a prayer.  She doesn’t make a lot of noise a.k.a. preach, but does things let me tell ya!  CrazyMarvin says—Talk is sooooo cheap and folks spend soooo much time just talking but…others just get it done! Such is life!

Let grandma off the hook!  I heard a grandma who is very senor say the other day—I wish our kids would make our Christmas dinner or at least make most of it.  I’m old and tired of doing it all.  Soooo kids, maybe it’s time for the “changing of the guard.”  You probably should bring more that the cut-up carrots.  You’re fifty years old sooooo you’re about old enough.  50yearoldBetz says—I can’t do that; I don’t know how to cook or bake; we eat at the bar and grill most of the time.  Flipthepancake—We have a friend who really likes to cook and bake.  She says—Just put some flour, lots of butter, a few eggs, some cream and lots of sugar together and everything tastes good.  If it doesn’t, just add some more sugar; it’s Christmas.

You might not understand this especially if you are over 60; you might not get it!  Ouchy ouchy!  I went to our grandkids’ piano recital last Saturday.  It was really fun; I had such a good time. Why you ask?  Well, of course it’s our grandkids but it was done with class and it was only 35 minutes long (i.e. our culture thinks waiting is a waste of time). And the folks who I was with. In our culture today, if it’s tooooo long, folks just don’t care for it.  Those in attendance were mainly parents in 20-40s (i.e. use to fast moving stuff) and a few grandparents who were in their 50s (i.e. I think I was the oldest person there).  Maybe many folks over 65 won’t understand this!  I was talking at lunch with Jessica, our daughter-in-law, who is in digital marketing.  She told me that if a person clicks on something on a web site and if it doesn’t’ react in 2 seconds, they will close the web site and go to another.  2 seconds folks!  That is why Amazon etc. are successful (i.e. very customer friendly). Can you tell by the pic if it is Charlie or Rookie who is done playing (i.e. off the hook) and which one still has to play (i.e. on the hook).  I think that is soooooo funny (i.e. pressure to perform seems to affect us at all ages). 

Don’t call me!  This Christmas contact some folks who you care about who need some back patting for whatever reason.  It’s a time of giving love especially toooo folks who are struggling for some reason.  A text or email is ok, better yet a note, a call is even better and even better yet, a visit.  When you do, don’t talk about yourself as how great you are or how great your family is, or how much food you have, or how much fun you are having, or your presents, or how pretty your house is etc. (i.e. that’s like rubbing salt in an open wound).  Use your heart and brain!  If you are going to do that, don’t contact them (i.e. you are just self-glorifying yourself—they don’t want to hear that).  Booooo!  And for gosh (i.e. meaning God) sakes, don’t be cheeeesey!  Ok, I am going to let you off the hook.  Many churches and groups and individuals don’t practice this or even preach this, sooooo there.  Some seem to like rituals, traditions and political stuff much better.  MissPerfect says—The church I go toooo encourages good stuff like this.  I hope all churches encourage this stuff. Ok, now don’t contact me, I’m ok.  Sorta kinda!!!!  BUT caregivers are always happy to hear from folks.  We appreciate it much. All caregivers need support.  Our little Alzheimer’s support group has only 2 living folks left; 6 have died.  That is how Alzheimer’s works.

My mentor would say to me—erv, the folks who dislike you or disagree with you, you need toooo treat them with kindness (i.e. special kindness).  Don’t overreact to them because they disagree with you.  If you want to overreact, overreact with more kindness.  I thought of my mentor’s philosophy recently.  A person and I disagreed.  He wanted to argue; I wouldn’t. I left him off the hook but he didn’t want that; he wanted to argue; I didn’t. I might have frustrated him by not letting him argue with me.  Such is life.

Letting folks off the hook is a lot harder for many than throwing some mud at them.  Are you a good mud thrower?  Surely for those of you who go to church, don’t throw any mud, do ya? CousinDeeDee says—I can’t wait for coffee and cookies after the church service sooooo I can throw some mud; I’m good but not near as good as the gals in our little holy huddle; they are champion mud throwers.  SusieQ says—Maybe we should have mud throwing competition between churches.  Now that would be interesting. It would be much like at the IA State Fair where they have a cow pie throwing contest.  Maybe it might make the Olympics; ok, just a denominational Olympics.  It could be called—Sling Some Mud at Christmas! Winner takes all!

I really had to laugh at myself the other day. I had the opportunity to really sling some good dirt about two different folks in the same conversation.  I mean this was really good dirt; dirt like from the middle of the massive huge corm field of Butler County (i.e. 95 CSR dirt for those of you who know what that means).  I decided not to sling it.  Afterwords, I was soooo proud of myself for not slinging it.  But now I have a pride issue!  Man-O-Man, if it isn’t one thing it’s another.  I can’t win for loosing! I can’t get off the hook!

LuckieEddie says--Yank some of the groans of “I want” out of our prayers, and shove in some “shouts of praise and thankfullness!” WorldClassLarry says—Little kids are the ones who want want and want things for Christmas; some folks never outgrow that mentality.  My favorite Christmas song is the Hallelujah Chorus of Handel’s Messiah (i.e. and it’s about 250 years old).  It is soooo uplifting and full of praise (i.e. not asking and wanting).  I suggest you goggle the lyrics and then listen to the song sung.  Oh by the way, hallelujah means God be praised.  I realize that you all know that but Joesixpack probably doesn’t; it’s probably not real popular in bars but I might be surprised (i.e. I don’t know what is in folks’ hearts). 

Here is a possible idea to get folks off the hook—NeverStopLearningWesley says--Never stop investigating. Never be satisfied that we know enough to just get by. Ever question we answer leads onto another question. This has been the greatest survival trick of our species. I think he is saying—always learn; always learn. I really enjoy being around folks who have a huge massive desire to learn.  I got some communication on Thanksgiving from a gal I meet hiking in NV.  I am reading one of her books.  ANYWAY, I like what she said in her email-- I think we both know we have much to be thankful for - including the opportunity to look around and question. I think she hit the nail right on the head (i.e. for most folks anyway—the ones who are open minded—black and white folks maybe not sooooo much).

Research has shown that, in America, people in the bottom twenty percent of income brackets give a higher percentage of their income to charity than those who are in the highest twenty percent of income brackets. The wealthier may give larger amounts of money, but the lower earners give a higher percentage. WildWillie says--Giving is fun and good anytime but many think Christmas or the end of year is a special time (i.e. save money on taxes—is that a true gift or a money management tool).  I read in the paper soooo it must be right, asking if we are givers or a takers.  My opinion is that givers are much more fun to be around than takers (i.e. their paradigms are different).  What do you think?  That is what I thought. I read this while eating my oatmeal with half a banana on it--“The essence of Christian ethics is gratitude.”--R. C. Sproul  AverageJoe says—I think a great way of showing gratitude is giving.

Dr.J said—"Learning to express our gratitude to God isn’t just something nice to do. Studies have shown grateful people tend to enjoy healthier, happier lives. That shouldn’t surprise us. The Bible said this thousands of years ago.” I will let you off the hook if you don’t like to hear that.  Here it is—I have heard on the street that humans are greedy, self-glorifying, egotistical, cocky, and just plain full of sin.  Soooo if you have those qualities, you are just human (i.e. that can be your defense—I have no idea if it will work. I really doubt it; I don’t think the odds are very good). 

Have a FUN day my friends unless you have other plans. (-:

erv

MyFriendJean says--Stop worring about the potholes in the road and celebrate the journey.

over the top

A friend emailed me--ERV..often times there is more to the story...but also when I tell a story I tell more than I heard!  Our mutual golf buddy/friend (i.e. who was a former big-time writer) says--Every good story has some embellishment.  Sooooo take those comments into consideration when reading this “It’s Saturday.”  It might be over the top!

Sooooo I bought a new and exciting blend of coffee the other day.  The name sounded sooooo good that I couldn’t resist it.  Sooooo the next morning I get the coffee out with high expectations only to find out that it was whole bean and not ground. Man-O-man!  No problem, we have a grinder somewhere soooo I spend time digging around and found it.  I fill the grinder full as I want to grind all the coffee and be done with it.  I ground and ground, but it didn’t grind very well (i.e. I think I went over the top I think).  Then the grinder started to smell, and smoke came out of it.  I killed the grinder.  Sooooo now I still have whole coffee beans and a dead grinder.  And there’s more to the story, I took some of the partially ground coffee and brewed some coffee.  I didn’t care for the blend! Man-O-Man! And the coffee was expensive coffee tooooo yet!  I had a good laugh!  What more could I do?

ItchieBitchie says—"Many folks aren’t as important as they think they are; I have learned firsthand how fleeting influence and prestige can be. Without even a moment’s notice, it can be stripped away.”  I would guess we are not indispensable. For this reason, I assume it is crucial that we guard our hearts against pride (i.e. try to give ourselves pats on the back), especially when we have experienced some success in life (i.e. whatever that is). I read while eating my oatmeal with half a banana on it--Make a conscious effort to show deference to others. Numerous studies have shown that the most effective leaders, the ones that succeed in motivating and inspire those they lead, are those who exhibit humility and genuine concern for other people. “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.”  Do you believe that, or do you think pride makes a person more successful?  That is what I thought.  It’s our choice for sure. 

MyFriendFromEastOfTown told me this at breakfast yesterday--The best way to preach is to tell the truth using kindness and grace.  BUT not be condescending; that never works. 

AverageJoe (i.e. who is good as gold) says—It appears that folks who have over the top thinking a.k.a. those who think they know everything, seem to poison the well that we all drink from. BigPictureEric says—It seems that they can really cause an ugly monster.  I had my monthly breakfast with The Professor the other day.  We didn’t talk about sports or money.  No no!  We talked about family dynamics, life struggles and then The Professor brought up hermeneutics. What in the world is that?  I never heard of that before.  I’m just a little ol’ farm boy from a mile and fourth south of Roseland, MN.  I think he was a little over the top for me.  haha

I think I have noticed a change in the type, or maybe they have been coached to change, in sports announcers.  Why?  ‘cause the majority of the audience doesn’t like the announcers who think they know everything.  The ones who criticize the coaches and the officials as they think they knew all the answers (i.e. way over the top) who irritate the listeners.  I think many listeners did what I did—I muted them (i.e. they were a big turn off).  The new type of announcers is much easier to listen tooooo as they don’t, or have been coached, to not to think they know all the answers (i.e. much more audience friendly).  I listen to numerous speakers; it’s exactly the same with them.  Don’t kid yourself folks.  Some folks think they know stuff that only God knows.  Da!  ItchieBitchie says--Folks might be flying at 41,000 feet but there is turbulence sooooo they have to pull the stick aft and goooo higher, like way higher to get rid of the turbulence.  Did you get it? That is what I thought. Saturday questions--Why do you think State Farm uses Patrick Mahomes and Aaron Rodgers in their ads?  Da!  Why do some gals get to be homecoming queens? Da!

Our soon to be 10-year old granddaughter, Charlie, made this for Arlene for her birthday. What a simple message.  She has such a tender and loving heart.  This is not over the top folks!  I can even understand this message.  BUT can I apply it to my life; now that is another question!  If it’s over the top for any of you, maybe you want to read soon to be 7-year old Rookie’s version! 

I read in the paper, sooooo it must be right, that the Secretary of Agriculture, Perdue, said in Wisconsin that small dairy farmers are toast. FarmerJoe says—Change is a regularly reoccurring situation! Where did all the buffalo go—they shot them all as they didn’t fit into the new culture. Is Secretary Perdue over the top or just telling the truth?  How do you think that went over with the small dairy farmers?  Is it reality?  Well, money usually drives everything; if you can’t make money, change will happen.  History sorta kinda shows that.  BUT usually in change, some folks will be the losers.  Maybe we should be more proactive to change; get ahead of it instead digging in our heels.  I don’t know.  What do you think?

Winston Churchill said—Those who never change their mind, never change anything. Was Winston serious?  I think he is referring to the way I think, my opinions, and my thought pattern.  I am wrong sometimes and I need to admit it when I am.  Folks seem to accept folks much better when they admit they are wrong instead of trying to still ”beat the drum very loud of wrongness” (i.e. we need to eat crow when we are wrong). BUT how do I know when I am wrong?  Well, I think sometimes we just know we are wrong. I am struggling with how a new form of marriage is being used (i.e. I never heard of it before).  Probably 98% of the younger generations could care less.  They say—Folks can do whatever they want; whatever makes them happy (i.e. it’s a new scheme).  erv, it’s none of your business or concern; it’s a change in culture.  Part of me agrees but its all new to me; I'm confused.  Again, probably 98% of the younger generations would say to me—erv, rub some dirt on it and move on; change your mind set, your opinion and your thought pattern; you are not in charge of other folks or the world! I'm not going to judge anyone as I have no idea what I would do in the same situation. BUT I do know its time for me to change my coffee cup for sure and I did!

My dental hygienist told me that at their family Thanksgiving get-to-gather, there were more dogs than kids!  She made me laugh.  Yes, our culture is changing.

But some traditions just hang on.  Our granddaughter, Erin who is 13, wanted to make Anna’s cranberry salad for Thanksgiving.  She touched my heart.  It’s fun when the younger generations touch our hearts.  Very special. 

In looking back at my life and thinking about my current life situation, I have had a lot of disappointments a.k.a. bad gum; I would guess you did tooooo.  I have a tendency when I first discover a disappointment to have a knee jerk reaction to the disappointment (i.e. it feels like I just got sand kicked in my face).  BUT, I also have a tendency after adjusting and thinking it over, to become proactive and accepting.  I have these reactions with the progression of Arlene’s Alzheimer’s disease.  It’s ugly but it seems like after each new digression, after some time I become proactive and accepting (i.e. spit more bad gum out).  I guess that is good. Probably better than if I don't.  To keep chewing that bad gum that is an over the top negative reaction, is probably not good.  That’s my opinion.  You guys have any advice for me?

I went and saw the old client I talked about a few weeks ago.  We havn’t seen each other for many years.  When he greeted me, he became very emotional and gave me a hug (i.e. he was never emotional when we did business—times change folks).  We reminisced about old days and our business dealings and our relationship (i.e. even though he has two hearing aids and still can’t hear worth a darn).  His wife passed on a couple of months ago soooooo maybe the timing was really good.  But anyway, I debated if I should do this, but I think it was really a win-win situation (i.e. it would have been easier to sit on the couch and eat chips).  I suggest you do something like this (i.e. throw those chips away and get your butts off the couch).  Some of you might think that doing something like this is a little over the top! It could be but I think it’s better than sending a card for their funeral (i.e. but not as easy for sure). 

How dumb can I get? WorldClassLarry says—A person begins cutting their wisdom teeth the first time they bite off more than they can chew. GeorgeTheCrook says--Many times folks think they know more than they really do.  I can do some really dumb stuff at times that is way over the top (i.e. way out of good reason and judgment).  I would think I would learn; many times I do after stubbing my toe for the 100^th time. 

I found out the other day, AGAIN, that I’m really not very important.  Now that is humbling!  I need to be reminded of that occasionally. Maybe I can get over the top at times.  I was listening to a person speak recently and thought about what a couple of friends told me.  One said—If you read self-help books, most authors say what they need to say in the first one or two chapters and the rest is just filler.  The other one said—I don’t read self-help books as I never apply what they say.  I guess we need to be careful when we speak and write; those opinions might apply there also.  MissPerfect says--Maybe many folks think they are more important than what they are; have the “over the top” thought of themselves. Just maybe. TheGuyDownTheStreet says—Thank God I don’t have that thinking but my mother-in-law surely does. 

I also read this while eating my oatmeal with half a banana on it--No man ever repented of being a Christian on his death bed. And tooooo top it off, Billy Graham made this observation, “No one can outrun death. It will catch up to all of us eventually.” A friend emailed me this--"I know about things that interest me....but I'm not interested in everything." Are these communications over the top for some of you?  Well suck it up cupcake and let’s get going, we’re burning daylight!

Ok, think about this (i.e. it might be over the top for some of you)—Are we the problem or the solution to the problem.  Could it be that we misinterpret our self-evaluation of ourselves?  We might think we are right, but we are not really right.  Could be folks!  I think I’m both sometimes (i.e. not pretty).  A friend text me—High emotions is not a good recipe for harmony. 

Have a FUN day my friends unless you have other plans. (-:

erv

MyFriendJean says—When the root is deep, there is no reason to fear the wind.

catch a break

TomSmart says--erv erv, you write things that make no sense to me!  Now that is really interesting to me TomSmart.  It really is.  One of us maybe is off kilter a little maybe. And if you are certain you are not, then it must be me. But before you decide, ask your shrink about that! haha  And tooooo top it off, my mentor use to say to me—erv, everyone can be bought; it’s just a matter of price (i.e. maybe one of us has been bought). 

I say it a lot that we interpret facts and opinions differently based on many reasons (i.e. that is why we don’t understand each other).  Take a look at this pic.  We were at Historical Kinnick Stadium watching the Hawks beat Illinois last Saturday (i.e. a great unique time).  It looks like I think it’s the coldest out. Rookie thinks it’s the warmest, Chet so so (i.e. but maybe most stylish) and Tom isn’t sure.  Hey, it’s 45 degrees on the thermometer.  We all relate to the fact differently.  Good grief!  There was an interview over the new public address system.  I asked the ladies beside me if they understood anything that was said—they said they didn’t understand one word.  I didn’t neither. Good grief! I said to them—If you and I didn’t, I would guess the other 65,000 didn’t either.  Now that is a fact!  Right? Ok, sooooo on the way home going down the road, Chet had on the post-game call in show.  One person said that our IA quarterback had an outstanding game, another said he was just average, and another said he had a poor game.  They all watched the same game (i.e. fact) but all had a different opinion.  Good grief!

This might not make any sense tooooo you until one day, bingo, it does.  A friend recently told me—erv, you have changed since you had to deal with Arlene’s Alzheimer’s.  What!  I don’t think sooooo.  Don’t kid yourself, you have.  How have I changed.  You look at things differently; it’s noticeable.  I wonder if they think I’m a better person or a worse person.  I have no idea.  Maybe a month ago, I read John Grisham’s book The Guardian.  Mr. Grisham usually has some undertone of God in his books (i.e. very slight but always some it seems).  He doesn’t preach but…!  JoeBlow says—In our culture today, it seems, like all preaching and nothing practical/applicable is not accepted very well.  ANYWAY, this is the line he put in his book (i.e. it might be confusing to some of you, but you might be the recipient someday; you never know; Paul didn’t see it coming either). 

 Soooooo what is a break?  Inheriting 240 acres of prime Butler County corn ground worth $10,000 an acre? Surviving a disease or accident that most folks die from? Being of sound body and mind? Being content? Having a mind set and ability in which you make a lot of money? Having options? Having a great family situation? Meeting a great person? Me getting some good advice from Tom at the football game? You get the idea.  How do we know if we are getting a break or have gotten a break?  Maybe we have gotten a break and we can’t comprehend it. Do we ever think we get a break, but it isn’t really?  Do we make our breaks?  Do breaks just happen? Are our breaks miracles? Why do some folks seem to get good breaks and others seem like they don’t? I have a lot of questions and no answers.  I need to talk to a person who thinks they know everything!  haha

Recently I had some emotional days (i.e. some emotions were because of Arlene’s situation and some emotions were from some of your situations that you shared with me). There sure is a lot of hurt in life.  ANYWAY, I sat down in front of the fireplace and was doing some work when I fell asleep.  I slept really hard for maybe 45 minutes.  I felt, oh sooooo much better when I woke up.  It was like I caught a break. I really felt very good; in fact, I felt way good (i.e. I knew it wouldn’t last forever sooooo I enjoyed it)!  JoeInsite says—We must not allow the clock and the calendar to blind us to the fact that each moment of life is a miracle and mystery.

                                                                                                                                               

 CadillacJack says--Give folks a break! You need to give about 10 praises for every negative remark you give. Why? Because the negative is what folks remember. If you were to get 10 compliments and one criticism, which one would you go home and remember? If a business person gets 9 cards that say, “Thanks for doing such a good job for me; you really helped me out a lot” and one card that says, “You’re off the wall!” which one do you think the business person dwells on the most?  My Mom, Anna, would say to me—erv, if you can’t say something good, don’t say anything. I think she was saying—give someone a break! PositiveFred says--You’ve got tooooo overemphasize the positive, because you inevitably have to deal with the negative. MissPerfect (i.e. is medium—sooooo called ‘cause she is neither rare nor well done) says--I’m really not very good doing that; I like to say negative things toooo folks soooo I can make myself look better! SusieQ says—All this might be right for most folks except my sister-in-law who has an ego the size of a hot air balloon; she doesn’t need any more positive stuff (i.e. her head can’t get any bigger or she won’t get her head through the door for the family Christmas gathering). She can really strut her stuff alright!  A friend and I went to a UNI basketball game the other night.  You don’t need to have a big head; you can just borrow one!

Some of you maybe might think you just caught a break after thinking about trying the following stuff maybe and others of you might think this idea is a bunch of hooey.  ANYWAY, OneSmartPerson says—"When you wake up, instead of checking emails on your phone, or counting your retweets, pick up a pen and scratch a few sentences into a notebook.”  Hey, listen folks, it’s way different to write something down than just thinking it.  It’s really special.  My opinion.  Now that I’m home alone I pray out loud. It’s a real different sensation that is amazing; special (i.e. it’s real different saying it out loud than thinking it silently).  I suggest you try it.  Like I said, some of you will think this is just a bunch of rubbish and others will think you just caught a break!  Such is life.

It’s that time of the year which there are family gatherings, social events, parties etc.  A fun time for such things.  For some of you, it’s a fun time and others of you, it’s a time of misery; you hate these parties.  It can be a lot of good food and conversation.  Sooooo how do we know if we are a weird person that folks would rather not invite.  Like we are over opinionated, always think we are right, toooo chatty, have philosophical arguments about nothing, dominate the conversations, irritating, rude, drink toooo much, eat tooooo much, are just plain obnoxious?  GeorgeTheCrook says--Surely not me!  My wife, maybe, but not me!  C’mon, most families and offices have such a person.  BUT how do we decide if we are that person? Are we the person when we don’t show up, folks think they caught a break!  A friend and I were talking about two university basketball coaches.  He said a person who knows both coaches told him—One coach the more folks are around him the more folks don’t want to be around him and the other coach, the more folks are around him the more they want to be around him. Huh, interesting.

A senior friend called me and asked if I would visit with her—of course—soooo we visited for an hour.  She wanted me to make a decision for her—I didn’t.  I listened to her (i.e. she has told me this before sooooo I was familiar with what was going on).  I told her—There is a good chance that something will happen before you have to make your decision (i.e. the deadline) which will make your decision for you; you won’t have a decision to make.  If not, you probably already have your decision made but you want assurance that it is the correct one.  In your case, there is no correct or wrong decision.  What every decision you make will be the right decision for you.  And even at that, if you want to redo your decision later, you have that decision (i.e. nothing hurt).  You will be fine!  It is very questionable if she caught a break from me!!!! haha

I have been in several support groups of Alzheimer’s caregivers both at home and in AZ.  I have heard this question many times—Is it ok for me to pray that my loved one would die? It’s what they want.  The disease is just going to get worse and more misery for everyone.  If we are Christians, we believe that heaven is really going to be great.  Sooooo why not God, just let them die.  It would be a break for everyone.  I was communicating with a friend whose husband is pretty bad.  We both think that death would be a blessing for everyone.  She did say to me—erv, a couple of his siblings talked to me and they are supportive and concerned about me; it was nice to hear that. You other caregivers know that was a break for her (i.e. she really appreciated and needed that). 

The other night our neighbor came over with their new little girl and a loaf of banana bread.  We talked for quite some time.  I enjoy visiting with her.  She is very refreshing.  After she left, I thought, I just caught a break.  She was uplifting to me.  She was like a cheerleader; she sorta kinda cheered me on even though she didn’t maybe know it or maybe she did; I don’t know.  That is what cheerleaders do.  Saturday question—Are you and I cheerleaders? She told me that their little boy spent some time with his boy cousins this last summer.  He got banged around pretty good which made him a lot tougher.  Have you ever got banged around and got a lot tougher? Maybe caught a break!

Magic (i.e. that is what I call her as she is sooooo good with the memory unit residents) was leaving and soooo was I. Magic sings and plays her guitar I think once a week.  She said she had to stop and see Arlene for a second.  I had to talk to the resident assistant.  We then met again when both were leaving. She told me that she got a huge smile from Arlene.  Then she sang Edelweiss as she knows Arlene likes the Sound of Music. Then she said--Alzheimer’s sucks!  Then she said--This might sound corny but when I can make the life of dementia residents a little better, I feel the closest to God.  Magic, you are blessed to be a blessing! 

Have FUN day my friends unless you have other plans. (-:

erv

MyFriendJean says—Ability is important, but dependability is critical.

P.S. About once a year, goggle redoes their security of bulk emailing.  It is to protect the public, but it causes problems for my mailings of “It’s Saturday.”  Generally, they work out the bugs or I learn how to adjust over some time.  ANYWAY, please check your spam and also you may bookmark the link and check for new “It’s Saturday” each Saturday morning.  I will try to get it working smooth again.  Sorry! We got to take the bad with the good.  Such is life.