ItchieBitchie (i.e. who can be sooo sweat and a jerk all in
the same day) says—Many folks compare their needs to others’ needs. I think that
each one of us can be nonchalant when it comes to a certain life
area. Because motivation stems from the unmet needs we have we tend
to become motivated only when we believe that the activity we are
doing can help us meet one of our important needs. We talk a lot about the needs of others, but
realty is, we are by far much more concerned about what we think our needs are
and how we can get them. And we don’t
know what are needs compared to our wants.
Look around folks, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure that
out. JoeBlow (i.e. who might have a short shelf life) says—Our international
neighbors ask—What are you Americans doing anyway. The snowball is rolling down the hill at a
fast pace and we can’t stop it and it’s getting bigger and bigger. GeorgeTheCrook (i.e. can be a real genius at
times) says--We are going to stretch this sucker out as far as we can and as
long as we can. Let the good times roll.
Live today and die tomorrow! Besides, we can always make a bunch of noise and
the government will take care of us (i.e. it seems to work). And who is the American government? LuckieEddie
asks--Are we fooling ourselves? MissPerfect (i.e. who can at times be full of
cotton bluff) says—Probably we are but who cares; I don’t! Such is life.
CadillacJack says--Nonchalant can be
either negative or positive. The word describes someone who
is relaxed and calm in a way that shows that they do not care or are not
worried about something. If someone is nonchalant about another
person's pain or trouble, the word has a definite negative connotation. I was thinking of being nonchalant in a
positive way (i.e. a good quality). BUT,
if you want to think of it in a negative way, that is your decision. Such is life.
I
have a friend who seems to always be nonchalant a.k.a. always even keeled (i.e.
a very good quality, I think). I heard her
once or twice get a little excited and raise their voice in exasperation. I wonder if she is always that way or just
when she is around me. I would need to
ask their family; they would know. haha
I text her and asked her—her response-- I am sure family could point out
my many moments of exasperation but the older I get and the peace and
contentment Jesus affords me perhaps helps to keep things in check.
Are you a nonchalant person or more a hyper person? I am maybe more a “let’s get after it” type
of person but don’t think I’m over the top but I could be at times. That is my opinion. As a friend says—Moderation is good in most
everything (i.e. but there are exceptions for sure). He is probably right; when we get radical and
crazy about almost anything, it doesn’t work.
We maybe do need to be under control.
What do you think? That is what I
thought.
SusieQ
asks—How can I become more nonchalant?
Experts (i.e. that is anyone who says they are) says--Well, when
everything is comical is a good start. Just like
most things have a silver lining, most things have a
comedic edge to them, too (i.e. don’t be soooo serious all the time—loosen up a
little folks). I am in Westbrook, MN
visiting long-time friends Gene and Jan Lindaman. They were hosts to our family for years as
Gen and I played in Rolling Hills Golf Club’s member/guest tournament for maybe 23 years. The last years I was unable to
play with him because of Arlene’s Alzheimer’s.
Well, he invited me back this year.
We used to be able to compete and even won it a few times but not
anymore for sure. Soooo I need to remind
myself to be nonchalant when I can’t play as I could in those “good old days”
(i.e. don’t be soooooo serious erv). It is hard for me to accept reality (i.e.
time takes its toll). Sooooo suck it up erv and move on.
I was going for a jog the other morning and Doug hollered
out of the front door of his Mother’s house.
He and his wife, Karen, were here to visit Doug’s Mother a.k.a. MyFriendJean
as she is in her final days of her life.
They invited me in and we had such a good visit about many things. I told them that this is what life is about. I soooooo much enjoyed them and their wide
range of opinions and views (i.e. they are from CA—haha). It appears that Doug might
have changed some because of his education, being in big business and living in
many parts of the U.S. than from his growing up years on the farm west of
Bristow in Butler County IA. BUT, they
both have good hearts, my kind of folks for sure.
This
new time of the virus situation will really change maybe many things. We might have to change if we like it or
not. Yikes. I really like the spies’
story which includes Caleb and Joshua (i.e. if you don’t know the story, goggle
it—it’s a good read—my opinion). I will
try to paraphrase it in real short version (i.e. or you won’t read it—changing
times). The spies were sent to look at
the new land—all said it was nice but most said it was to toooo much work to
conquer except Caleb and Joshua. That’s
it in a nutshell. Maybe, we are in that
situation now, just maybe.
I was
looking at this guy’s trailer with the signs on it. He then appeared and asked me which sign I
liked best—The Fort Madison one (i.e. where IA has its state pen)—me toooo—were
you a resident there—no no, just like the sign—I see you have a cross on your
chain, are you a Christian—(i.e. he nonchalantly said) yep, a born again
Christian, are you—yes I am—good for you brother. He and his two grandsons got in their pickup
and left.
I text a friend to see if he wanted to do breakfast (i.e. we
do it maybe every month). He didn’t’
respond for about three days and then called me—I thought you forgot about
me—I’m probably dog shit—yes, the worst stinking kind; I wouldn’t even pick you
up! That is how friends can and do talk
to each other (i.e. maybe not girls and surely guys wouldn’t talk to a gal that
way—there isn’t equality there for sure).
I hope this never changes, I like to treat gals differently (i.e. my
opinion). BUT the world culture is
changing for sure. It is and yet it
isn’t the same! I was having coffee with
the boys in the shed deep in Butler County (i.e soooo deep that the revenuers
can’t even find it). A retired farmer, now a landlord, told us that he had
their kids and grandkids over for Sunday dinner (i.e. some do that in Butler
County). There was a rabbit that made a
nest in the lawn and had babies. He shot
the mother and gave the babies to the cats.
The grandkids thought that was terrible.
That is how our parents’ generation who grew up on the farm did it
folks; it was our normal way of life (i.e. old school). The next day, I had breakfast with a friend
at his house (i.e. his wife made a very delicious breakfast for us). He told me that one of their grandboys called
him yesterday while riding his bike. He
has a phone on his wrist (i.e. now that’s a gizmo). He is 4 years old! The world is the same and yet it isn’t. Such is life.
A friend was telling me this week that he thinks there is
something wrong with his head. I laughed
and maybe took it tooooo nonchalantly. I
told him I think there is and laughed some more. BUT I think he might have been serious; I
wonder if he is concerned about it. He
has a lot going on (i.e. way tooooo much in my opinion besides having sever
physical health issues and he is 74 years old).
I did tell him he needs to slow down in which he said he won’t. He doesn’t need to be doing all that stuff;
he is financially wealthy! Soooooo there. I’m guessing he won’t change until he
dies. I really don’t know if he
can. It’s in his head!!!
I have another friend who this last week put in a bathroom
for a couple who couldn’t afford it. He
got a couple of his buddies who are also talented in this area (i.e. not me
haha) to help and they did it for a fraction of the cost. He told me that it is a good feeling helping others. He’s about 74 toooo. Winston Churchill said--“We make a living by
what we get, but we make a life by what we give.” Dr.J says--As you pray,
seek guidance on how you use your time, talent, and treasure. RickeRick says--How do you know what your ministry is? Look at your talents, gifts, and abilities. When you use those talents and gifts to help other people, that’s called ministry—nothing fancy or scary about it. It’s just helping others.
A golf buddy/friend told me a couple of weeks ago while golfing that he
has a business situation that seems wrong (i.e. it involved a pretty good chunk
of money). I have experience in this
type of situation from my former occupation and told him that something doesn’t
sound right; there is something wrong. I
suggested he contact the owner of the company and see what’s up. He said he might do that. He was just nonchalant and cool about
it. The next week he told me that he
text the owner three times but got no responds; that didn’t make since until he
checked and I found out he had a wrong number for him! The owner responded instantly and assured me
that it would be taken care of it and he would be treated in the proper
manner. He didn’t tell me the details of
why there was a problem in the first
place. ANYWAY there are some lessons and
opportunities that I can learn from this experience. How about you? Bingo!
It makes my life a lot better that he will get that “chunk of change” as
now we don’t have to look soooo long for his golf ball when he hits it in the
crap. He always says—YaBut erv, it’s a
new ball!
A long time friend (i.e. she was a student of mine maybe 45
years ago who is a neat gal who lives in the Great Northwest) send me this
advice via email. I think she is soooo
much on the money (i.e. a big chunk of money). “It takes time to put the pieces
of your life back together, erv. Don't rush it. Enjoy the ride.” It has been
sorta kinda hard recently for me to be patient.
I need to refocus on this. I have
never been a very patient person; tooooo much of a type A personality. I will work on it more. I need to be more nonchalant. BUT reality is…!
Have a FUN day my friends unless you have other plans. (-:
erv
MyFriendJean says—A role model is a better teacher than an
instruction manual.
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