nebulous

A wise old man told me the other day--If it's chatter, it doesn't matter. Sooooo you be the judge if this "It's Saturday" is just nebulous chatter! A friend said his deceased brother-in-law (i.e. who was also probably his best friend) would say to him--You are "one fry short of a a happy meal." Now that could maybe describe me toooooo!  Sooooo be aware and proceed reading with caution!

If something is nebulous, if it’s not specific, if it has no definitive time with it, it’s a 90% probability that it will never get done. It really helps me to write it down and look at it. My chances of running with it will be much greater, my opinion. Of course, maybe sometimes I really don’t really want to do it!  Many folks are just all talk to start with, all talk and no show! I hear folks say all the time, I will do it some day, but that some day never comes. They just sit on the couch and eat chips.  SusieQ who I sometimes wonder if she is okay, says—I like lists but doing them is another thing!

Bang bang ideas!

•       The Westminster Shorter Catechism encapsulates the Christian’s purpose in this terse                 statement: “The chief end of man is to glorify God and to enjoy Him forever.”

·         Visit people in person or by phone. Remarkable things happen when folks visit each other.

I am planning to do something here in AZ that is risky for me, not physically risky, but risky to my ego. I could fail, I could. I have it written down and have thought about it for some time. I really don’t know if I will do it or not.  I will see. I don’t know if it’s a good idea or not! Yikes! I do have a plan that might work.  MIGHT! I do better when I think about it for some time. It seems to come to light, and I see things better (e.g. like I can’t solve a problem but then all of a sudden I can figure it out, I see the solution). A support staff in our office would say—erv I need to incubate on it for a while and then she would figure it out, she is a very good at problem solving. Hey listen folks, prayer never hurts, at least for me it helps. But I don’t pray to figure something out that doesn’t work on my computer. Oh no, I just call one of my wizards! Ding ding ding!  haha It’s sorta kinda like prayer! Obviously Southwest Airlines needs to call their wizards!

This saying has toooooo be nebulous to many of you.  How can that not be? Hopefully it is funny to you who have had a divorce or had a bad relationship.  If I have offended you, I’m sorry. BUT it is the way it is. One person thinks their spouse or a person in a relationship is the greatest and others don’t think the same (i.e. maybe we don’t think alike, could be). Have you ever had nebulous thinking about someone or even been fooled?  There has to be a lot of folks fooled or why would anyone have a relationship with someone if it stinks from the start. I don’t know, really, I don’t know! Maybe that is why some super aged seniors really don’t want to get married again; it ain’t worth it.  They would rather just live together, associate with each other, or just get engaged but not married AGAIN.  And here is another reason I have heard; I don’t want another person have to take care of me if I would have bad health nor I don’t want to take care of another person with bad health. BUT some folks think marriage is worth it. Yes, they do! I hear and see older folks getting married all the time. There must be a reason. 

I was walking in my park the other morning and caught up with JoeWalker.  We introduced ourselves and he asked if I would walk with him soooo we walked a couple of miles together. He was a retired economics professor soooo we talked about the economy.  It was interesting to hear his opinion. We met one of my pickleball buddies and I introduced them and asked him to share his most interesting life with JoeWalker. JoeWalker asked him if God played a role in his life—God did more sooo in my early life but still does--I saw you at Men’s Prayer Breakfast—Ya, I attend.  Soooo we went on our walk and JoeWalker asked if I attend the breakfast—I did a few times last year but didn’t particularly enjoy them—how come—it seemed to me the speakers all talked about how great they were—you mean you think they were narcissists—I guess soooo, maybe (i.e. it reminded me of what an “ol’ boys club was like in the Roman Empire at the bath house”—well, I’m going to speak in a couple of weeks and I would like you to come—I will. I did, he was not a narcissist! Did a great job I thought. 

This might be contrary to popular opinion, maybe! One of the problems with possessions is that we can become enslaved to them (e.g. think of how differently you behave after putting new carpet in a room. Shoes, pets, food, and drink are suddenly banished. There’s nothing wrong with buying new carpet, but do you see how quickly life gets rearranged by the care of just one possession). It appears that possessions and/or lifestyles can become our gods and change who we are.  I wonder about that and if that is good. That is something that I have always struggled with a little in spending the winters in AZ. I mean, some folks can and do spend all their time doing what makes them feel good (i.e. they say, I have worked hard and now I’m going to do what I want; some didn't even work hard). JoeSixPack says—C’mon erv, that is what life is all about, it’s about Uno! FlipThePancake. There are many folks who winter in the South who do a lot of great things for others, yes, they do (i.e. it appears that many seniors in these 55+ communities really help each other). JoeBlow who really cares about others, says—erv erv moderation my boy, moderation! Okay, JoeBlow, but the narcissists aren’t as much fun to be around, my opinion.

The last two lines in Robert Frost poem, The Road Not Taken, says—Two roads diverged in a wood, and I--I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference. That is thought provoking, isn’t it? MissPerfect, who wants to know how much wind is left after the wind passes through a wind-energy farm, asks—Does the American culture care much about the road least traveled anymore?  Really, it doesn’t seem that way. It really doesn’t seem that folks care what is right anymore.  Or do they more than I think?  Maybe we don’t know what is right or wrong!  Now that could be. Or right doesn’t make us as much money or give us as much power or get us to the top!  Ouchy ouchy!

We seem to understand words differently, I think that is called semantics. This can cause many misunderstandings. Example: If I would say a woman really looks tough (i.e. meaning to me good looking, stylish or cool). BUT you might think it means I think she looks rough, rode hard and put away wet (i.e. an expression from when folks would ride their horse hard and not take care of them when done). Sooooo do you think this 67 Chev that I saw on my walk when in CO, looks tough?  In which way? I thought it was best that I did not use a pic of a woman in our 55+ community!  haha   It would have been nuttin but a no-win situation for me!  haha  Theladyfromnorthoftown who truly is a hybrid, says—erv, you are nebulous!

I have seen it where folks' feelings are way different about the same situation as well (i.e. completely different).  One person is very tender about something and another is very hard and callused about the same situation.  Why?  I'm not really certain but maybe because of genetics or past environment or current environment. JoeSixPack who is always well liked, says--These differences in feelings can cause differences of opinion of about many things (i.e. non compatible usually as most see it).

A friend told me recently that they participated in a group activity in our park but really didn’t enjoy it.  Why, I asked.  Well, it attracted a certain type of folks that I wasn’t really compatible with and also, I didn’t like the environment they created.  It just didn’t feel right for me.  Huh, interesting.  RickyRick said this—"Not everyone will want to be part of your God-given plans—and that’s okay. Continue to love everyone, but only invest in the willing.”  Soooo you can interpret that the way you want.  BUT it is very important to pick good folks to be around.  We all know that and have experiences of our past to prove it.  It really isn’t nebulous to figure that out nor does it take a rocket scientist to figure that out. Da! RickyRick went on to say—"Some people in your life will disappoint or betray you. When this happens, remember: Don’t waste time judging them. The Bible says, ‘Why do you judge your brother or sister? Or why do you treat them with contempt? For we will all stand before God’s judgment seat’ (Romans 14:10 NIV). They are accountable to God, not to you.” I know some of you who are bitter folks and I know some of you who could be bitter but decided not to be (i.e. you just amaze me).  Like my deceased friend would say to me—erv, we all have decisions and guess who gets to make the decisions but remember decisions have consequences

Playing sports and when I coached, we would go through plays and go over plays again and again soooo they became just natural.  Players didn’t have to think, it was just a natural instinct.  It’s sorta kinda like parenting maybe.  ANYWAY, soooo if you always say thank you as your default program, you don’t even have to think about it.  If you are a jerk, you don’t have to think about that either. LuckieEddie who is sometimes slower than molasses to catch on, says—I have found out that once a default is developed, it is very hard to change. That can be good or it can be bad I guess. Our thinking seems to sometimes change with age and responsibilities I would guess and think. The retired university professor told me that he taught traditional aged college students and non-traditional college students that were maybe 35 or sooooo who had families, jobs, and responsibilities.  The mature students were more focused on learning and weren’t thinking about (i.e. in his words) what was under the skirt of the gal next to him or what was in the pants of the guy next to her). 35-yearoldsBillandJane were maybe more interested in other things like getting an education!  Saturday question—Soooo what do you think the 77-year-old single folks here in the Valley think about?  I can only speak for myself! I heard in FL that the single 77-year-old gals mostly think about is if he is mobile and if he can drive after dark!

I read this on the back of a bathroom stall door soooo it must be right--Knowledge makes people humble. Arrogance makes people ignorant.

Have a FUN day my friends unless you have other plans. (-:

erv

MyFriendJean said--Our greatest glory consists not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.