our huggability rating

I was leaving the pickleball court the other morning and met a new friend. I asked her, what’s new?  There was no Tuesday donut talk meeting soooo some neighbors got some donuts and we had our own donut talk. Soooo what did you talk about? Nothing important, just goofy talk.  But free donuts is always the right idea to get folks to join a meeting for goofy talk. Sooooo, folks, this “It’s Saturday” is probably just goofy talk without the donuts!  But remember folks, I’m just another bozo on the bus soooo don't get your expectations toooo high!

During a football game many times they have a noise test seeing how loud the noise is using a decibel meter. The louder the noise many times, the bigger the advantage is for the home team. SusieQ says--It appears that many folks and groups of folks think that the more noise they make about themselves will make them more important and likeable (i.e. it raises their huggability rating). But in reality, it’s a distortion of reality; it usually lessens their huggability rating. Saturday questions—Sooooo what kind of person has a high huggability rating? What actually is a true definition of a huggable person? Are we huggable? Is being huggable an actual physical act or is it a non-tangible reaction to someone?

Social media is a good example that causes a lot of problems especially for folks with low confidence. It appears that the downside of social media can make many folks feel unhuggable. LuckieEddie says—Self-evaluation is very difficult, and most folks are not accurate in their self-evaluation. Some think they are better than they are, and others don’t think they are as good as they are. It appears that it is really hard to be accurate in our self-evaluation (i.e. we have a distorted image of ourselves sometimes). And maybe we can have a distorted purpose of our lives at times. I see Florida has passed a law that outlaws anyone under 14 to set up a Facebook account. A friend says that it should be the responsibility of parents and not the state. BUT not all parents do a very good job doing it.

I wonder if we struggle sometimes in who we want to be. I mean do we want to be a high powered, strong willed, in charge, demanding person or a kind, nice, humble person?  I think I see folks struggling with that. And I think some folks waffle and wobble in who they want to be and who they are. A zillion years ago when I started actually supporting myself, I was a teacher for a few years. I would do sociograms of my classes sometimes.  I would ask the students to fill out a short questionnaire asking questions like who would you like to study with, who is the nicest person in the class, who you would like to be your friend etc. It was always surprising who was the most wanted were. It was not the ones that we would think most of the time. It was many times a person or persons who never thought they were that popular. Huh, interesting. I think that is the same in the adult world most of the time. We soooo often have a distorted idea of what great is

It has been said—While you might spend a lot of time thinking about what other people think of you, the reality is that most people are primarily focused on their own lives and don’t actually give as much thought to your actions or opinions as you might believe. Or a friend says to me—Half of the folks don’t know and the other half don’t care about you. ItchieBitchie says—Most folks are toooo busy thinking about themselves that they really don’t care tooooo much about you. BUT as I read in a novel that I like—The good ones all do it; that is they care about others. Do you know any good ones? Are we good ones? How do we learn to be a good person?

We had the opportunity to be around many like minded folks at Christmas. We really enjoyed them. We also were around some folks who were not like minded and “it was what it was!” It seems like birds of a feather flock together pretty much. Some folks are soooo real, kind and humble which makes them soooo much fun to be around (i.e. very huggable). Did you experience this especially during the Christmas season? BUT we need to cut some folks some slack as Christmas can bring out some bad feelings of all kinds (i.e. some not soooo pretty ‘cause of the past that we have no idea about). Many times folks just show their “social media side” of themselves and not the real side of themselves. Ouchy ouchy!

A rich money tycoon once said—If you think money can buy anything and everything, you never ever never had money! Many folks think if a person has a whole lot of money their problems will be solved. But reality is, money only solves money problems. And sometimes a whole lot of money brings on many problems of its own. Money doesn’t solve every problem but just money problems. AverageJoe says—I will take those problems and the money! Saturday question—Does money make folks better folks? I don’t know, what do you think? Does more money make us more huggable?

Dr. J says—“Jesus: There’s just something about that name! As He is King of kings, so His name is above all names. Jesus is a simple word. Yet somehow His name stirs the deepest passions in humanity. To believers it’s a holy word; to others it’s a curse word.” Playing pickleball the other morning, one of our opponents missed a shot and said loudly, Jesus Christ (i.e. I don’t think he is a priest or a pastor)! Now that is a contradictory thinking probably. I would guess those two types of folks think completely opposite. I know which group of folks I want to be around. No question. I think one group is much more huggable than the other. That’s my opinion.

Are you back being huggable again mothers?  A 2023 survey reported by the American Heart Association noted that out of 1,000 respondents, 63 percent said the Christmas holidays are more stressful than the April tax season. And 51 percent reported that it takes weeks to recover from the holidays, especially for mothers. Hang in their mothers, it’s almost time to start thinking about Christmas 2025!

At Christmas and New Years, we have a tendency to hug more, maybe. Some families and folks are huggers and others not soooo much. Some parents teach their children by example to be huggers and others teach them not to be huggers so much. No question about it. Then there are friends who give us “wet wash rag hugs” and some that hug with great meaning. Such is life.

Are you internally huggable? I mean do we like ourselves or do we have a dog fight going on internally? Are we content or do we have a war going on internally? Do we want more social status, more stuff, more power, are we extremely competitive, or are we really happy in our own skin? A new acquaintance told us he had a minor stroke and can’t do some sport activities like he did before. He is and still is quite competitive, which creates a problem for him. His doctor suggested he learn new hobbies in which are non-competitive, even activities that he never did before which no one expects him to be good at (i.e. has no stress). That might even be a good idea for us as we age. Could be. MissPerfect says—But don’t pick up the hobby of eating!

Robert, anybody can be a Robert, says—"God offers us a new start; through Jesus Christ we can “restart.” And I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you. And I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh” (Ezekiel 36:26).

It appears that some folks are more huggable than others. Saturday question—Are we like a snotty nose kid? Maybe we need to wipe our snot away soooo we are more huggable!

Have a FUN day my friends unless you have other plans. (-:

erv

MyDeceasedFriendJean said--Praise to a child is as water to a thirsty plant.