Revert

Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one. ~Albert Einstein~ We talk and we talk and we talk but the reality is we just revert back to our old ways. http://www.wimp.com/budgetcuts/

It all reverts back to money, huh interesting. I read this in the paper so it must be right—Americans 45 and older are far more open to sex outside of marriage than they were 10 years ago (i.e. Da!), but they’re engaging in sex less often and with less satisfaction, according to a major new survey by AARP. What’s the problem? AARP sex and relationship expert, sociologist Pepper Schwartz, thinks financial stress is a prime culprit. Joesixpack says—Remember boys, a happy wife is a happy life. LuckieEddie says—Yabut, I just don’t get it. I’m told there is more to life than work but if I don’t work a lot I don’t make money and if I don’t make money my wife isn’t happy and if my wife isn’t happy then there is stress and when there is financial stress then…! So what is a guy suppose to do anyway! CadillacJack response is—Have your wife make a lot of money! Such is life.

GeorgeTheCrook says—When you have stress in your life, you seem to have more injuries, accidents and in general, more bad things happen to you. Maybe so GeorgeTheCrook. GeorgeTheCrook responds—No maybe about it! We seem to revert back to bad stuff and then bad stuff happens. AverageJoe says—Through the course of time, form is temporary but class is permanent. WildWilly says—To stress less, lower your expectations. So something happens, get over the disappointment, make the best of it, and make it an opportunity, not a problem. And one more thing—Be realistic. Don’t expect folks to change. Instead, change your reaction to the situation. JoseyTheBoxer says—Are you the problem or the solution to the problem? MissPerfect says--To attain material things, the world learns to attain speed. To attain spiritual things, I have to learn to attain a state of calm.

Maybe times when we get stressed we revert back to the way our mother did it (i.e. that can be good and that can be bad—all depends how your mother did it). I talked to a grandmother who is about 53 in church Sunday. She was back in Aplington I think to see her mother for mother’s day. I have known her for years and we were talking about parenting I think and she said—I tell my kids they are crazy how you spend their money—then I shut-up. Hey grandma, maybe they just had a hiccup (i.e. I think she might have had a hiccup or two in her life). Be patient, maybe they will revert back to your example.

Usually we revert back to how we were even when we want to change (i.e. maybe not fully but partially and maybe not all the time but part of the time). But then there are exceptions. A wise man told us about his father whom he remembered as a stern, non-compromising, stiff-necked, hard, demanding father. Then he had a heart attack at the age of 58 and did a 180 turnabout (i.e. 100% change). Recently a friend told me that he knows some folks very well who have a public persona and a home persona (i.e. they have just fooled folks for years—phony phony). They revert back to their old persona as soon as they get home. I try to treat everyone the same in every occasion and act the same at all times. ASmartWiseFriend says—That’s impossible, you have to treat folks different and you do if you realize it or not. Something that has really helped me though, is confidence with who I am—I just plain don’t get intimidated by anyone (i.e. I’m happy with whom I am—can do better at times but …such is life).

I just learned something really neat from a friend. I think he learned it from someone else and I bet that person learned it from another person. ANYWAY our mind is interesting (i.e. very interesting). SusieQ says—What we put in comes out—what you think is what you’ll be. Okay here is an exercise for you to do to change your stinkin’thinkin’—Write out 10 most appreciative things you have in your life (i.e. put a little time in this—they might change as your life changes). Twice every day copy them using your other hand opposite your primary writing hand (e.g. if you are right handed, use you left hand). I thought the reason to do that is it would take longer and make you concentrate more. No no, it’s to make your opposite side of your brain work (i.e. left side of your brain operates the right hand etc.). ItchieBitchie says—Us left handers have the right brain and you right handers…). Try this for two weeks and it will change your stinkin’thinkin’. And here is the best part of this deal—it doesn’t cost ya anything for this possible life-changing event. Soooooooo maybe it’s not all about money after all or maybe I’m missing something here folks! Such is life.

I read what a professor said--The world's 225 richest people now have a combined wealth of $1 trillion. That's equal to the combined annual income of the world's 2.5 billion poorest people (i.e. that statement has no agenda, it’s just interesting. Do you seem to revert back to trying to impress folks all the time (i.e. it’s graduation time again!!!!!)? It appears to me that one of the massive huge motivation factors in our world that causes much stress is trying to impress others continuously (i.e. I think women are the worse—my opinion). It drives me crazy. Dissatisfaction is a capitalistic driving force in our current culture (i.e. probably always has been). It appears we try not to be that way but we revert back continuously. Such is life.

I subbed for a 7th grade computer class this week. The kids are amazing with what they can do and how they like it. They say it's their favorite class. I also subbed for two engineering classes where these high school students use computers to draft stuff. Again just amazing what they can do (i.e. for college credits if they can pass the test). They really like this class. No problem with interest or attention in either class. So you think they are going to revert back to not using the computers? DA! So are these young folks going to revert back to a boring church service? DA! Sooooooooooooooooo what does that say to me related to church services, youth groups, and adult small groups--GET IN THEIR WORLD--my opinion. But what's the world of most traditional folks (i.e. and that has nothing to do with chronicle age folks)?????

So do you think we will revert back to what’s really important at some point? Max Lucado says this--When you are in the final days of your life, what will you want? Will you hug that college degree in the walnut frame? Will you ask to be carried to the garage so you can sit in your car? Will you find comfort in rereading your financial statement? Of course not. What will matter then will be people. If relationships will matter most then, shouldn't they matter most now? ~ This week I read the following—What I don’t want said at my funeral: She had the best intentions of anyone I know. She was always thinking of others; too bad she didn’t have time to actually do anything. Remember when she watched 25 hours of TV that one week? Wasn’t that special? I’ll always remember how she was too tired to do anything with us. She had such a pretty face. Too bad she didn’t take care of herself. She had a great sense of humor when she wasn’t exhausted. She must have been very appreciative of little things people did for her; we found boxes and boxes of unused Thank You notes in her desk. She loved the Lord a lot; maybe she’ll finally get to spend some time with Him.

HighIQWalley asks--When folks have severe problems, they sometimes revert back to the fetal position. Why is that do you think? Or why do folks when they get stressed revert back to “hitting their head against the wall like in their past’’ (i.e. like drinking, drugs, or any bad habit)? What do you think?

Instead of reverting back to our old habits, maybe we need to try something new (e.g. instead of watching 25 hours of TV, try to enhance our lives by watching TEDs). A friend sent me this site to watch a clip (i.e. about 15 minutes). I sent to some friends and one of them sent this back to me--If you liked that TED talk that you forwarded...you should check out the website. I've probably watched a dozen or so different TED talks and they are almost always very thought provoking. You can search the talks in a number of ways. Give it a look. http://www.ted.com/ SuckUpNellie says—People spend their entire lives at those lower attitudes without any awareness that this high country exists. She went on to say—Mental reflection is so much more interesting than TV. It’s a shame more people don’t switch over to it. They probably think what they hear is unimportant but it never is.

When I get confused (i.e. which I do quite often), I revert back to the Book for guidance. This is what it says--Be the right club baby, be the right club today. That’s the NEM version*

Have a FUN day my friends unless you have other plans. (-:

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KR’s thought of the day—One of the finest accomplishments is making a long story short!

TheProfessor’sPithySaying—There is no learning without diligent effort—Aristotle.

*The NEM version (i.e.The New Erv Mellema version) which means in golf language—It ‘s when a golfer hits a good shot right at the flag (i.e. target) and he wants it to be the right distance (i.e. be the right club) so it stays right by the target. It’s like my life—I want to be the right club, be the right club today (i.e. answer the bell). I think that is what it says (i.e. my opinion).