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Hey listen up! None of the “It’s Saturdays” try to change you in anyway but just try to make you think.  I can’t change you; it’s impossible, everyone and their brother knows that (i.e. you folks are tough cookies and very stiff necked and stubborn)!  No one changes until they want toooo. Maybe it’s an impossibility to even suggest that you think! haha Could be! ItchieBitchie, who practices well but is really stinks when the lights are on, says—The only thing that can change you is money! C’mon on, money really talks, especially free money! It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure that out. Suck it up cupcake and let’s get going!

I recently was part of a discussion of four of us on my neighbor’s drive.  I asked what their views were on college debt forgiveness.  We all expressed our opinions but then two of them got off the subject and got in a pretty intense argument of political opinions.  I thought there was going to be blood soooo I left (i.e. I don’t like to see folks get bloody).  They were not going to change each other’s opinion, no way!  I latter was told from a back door source that I was accused of almost starting a riot (i.e. right here in Butler County on my neighbor’s drive) and then I left!  What a hoot!

But leadership consultant and author, Tim Kight, suggests this simple but straight-forward perspective: “You are shaped by your genetics. You are influenced by your circumstances. You are defined by your choices.” That is his opinion and yours might be different like you are totally predestinated. SusieQ, who is an All-American gal, says--That’s it, you got it, that’s it! I doubt it! Ok, how about this, when leaving my Waukee family, I hugged our grandson, Rookie, and said--I really love ya!  He  hugged me more and said back—Grandpa, I love you more!  What shaped him to express himself that way?

A friend told me that her husband tells their grandchildren when they ask him how they met—I whistled and she got in the car and the rest is history!  She said that isn’t how it happened at all, but it’s a good story that the grandkids love to hear.  I have a friend a.k.a. valedictorian who was a professional writer who told us on the golf course years ago that all good stories are embellished a little. SweetBettyLou, who is a sweetheart, says--Let me qualify that statement—uffda uffda!

CoarchB, who exaggerates the story for the sake of emphasis, says—If you want to get out of the hole ya gotta put down the shovel (e.g. throw those chips away and get your butt off the couch).  Uffda uffda!  LuckieEddie, who has no excuses or explanations, says--That putting down the shovel can be pretty hard for me Coach B. I seem to just grab it again and continue to dig; it’s such a habit I have.  I seem to just keep diggin’ and the hole just gets deeper and deeper.  Uffda uffda!

HighEndRita, who is high-maintenance and a drama-drain, but who I like, says—My mother-in-law is unique a.k.a. not typical.  Soooo what is your image of her?  Is your image of her above typical or below typical?  You decided on her image because of your genetics, past environment or current environment. There is no question about it. You are preprogrammed just like a computer. When in CO I noticed that our grandkids always locked the doors of their house no matter what; all the time. Why do they do that do you think?  Because their father insists that all the doors are locked in the house at all times.  They have learned that from birth.  They probably will lock all the doors in their house when they have a house I bet.  And why did their father always lock the doors?  I have no idea! What is your guess? When I was a kid growing up a mile and fourth south of Roseland, MN, we didn’t even have a lock on our one door soooo Chester and Anna didn’t teach us kids that! 

I have negative emotions sometimes. Do you?  DollyShowoff, who is Butler County’s Champion story teller, (i.e. she is good let me tell ya)  says—Even when I put on my best show, I might still have negative emotions; c’mon erv, everyone has negative emotions. It’s just that some have more than others and some have more problems dealing with difficult emotions.  Thank you DollyShowoff, thanks for clearing that up for us, now we know.  I read in the paper, soooo it must be right, that we need to learn to handle negative emotions.  It said we need to accept them and accept them as natural and let them run their normal course (i.e. laugh at them might even work); tell yourself that tomorrow I will feel better. Just tame them. They probably aren’t as bad as we think they are. I like this one, reframe them. Reframing or cognitive reappraisal, can be defined as “changing the way one thinks about a situation in order to change its emotional impact.” It’s like finding a more positive interpretation of whatever is disturbing us (e.g. Thomas Edison example—When his research lab was burning down and decades of work were being destroyed, he supposedly told his son, “Get your mother and all her friends, they’ll never see a fire like this again.” “Don’t worry,” Edison calmed his son. “It’s all right: We’ve just got rid of a lot of rubbish.”) Uffda uffda! Oh by the way, the saying is what my Daddy, Chester, would say to me. I have it on the wall next to my desk. 

An 80+ robust lady hurt her leg pretty bad.  I asked her what happened. She laughed and said, well, I’m not very good on my feet anymore and have a hard time getting up from the sofa.  Sooooo my 88-year-old husband was giving me a hand and when he got me up, I lost my balance and  fell.  The worst part was I fell on him and hurt him toooo! She laughed and soooo did I!

For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, but the one who humbles himself will be exalted. Luke 18:14   You believe that?  Saturday question—Are Americans and the world very humble do you think? I read what Jane said while eating my oatmeal with half a banana on it—"The medieval church believed that pride was the root of all sins and was therefore the most dangerous…Pride is the sin of forgetting—or ignoring—our need for God…Real worship demands humility. It requires us to acknowledge our utter dependence upon God for salvation. This is why C. S. Lewis described pride as ‘the complete anti-God state of mind.’ Some of the proudest people you meet may also be the most religious.” Yikes Jane, what you said is humbling! Uffda uffda! Jane already told us more than she knows!

Suggestion:  Sit down and put it on paper!  Did you even hear me?  That is how we seem to live.  SIT DOWN and PUT IT ON PAPER! Personally, I find those two things very beneficial to me.  WorldClassLarry, who is smarter than all the monkeys at The Omaha Zoo, says—There is a enormous great feeling to pour your heart out with ink on paper!

Soooo I asked the gal checking me out at the grocery store--soooo how ya doing—not very well—well, that’s too bad—it could be better for sure—we have to go through the thick and then and maybe today you are going through the thin—ya I am—tomorrow is another day and things hopefully will be better for you—I hope soooo—the best to you—thank you for asking. Oh, the thick and thin that we go through.  The thick is more fun than the thin for sure but we all have both. It is hard to see the big picture when we are in a negative snapshot of life.  But the thin toooo will pass! BUT we got to remember that the thick snapshots don’t last either (i.e. soooo don’t get tooooo cocky; our glory, pride, and compliancy are our enemies). A real AverageJoe, who is in a thin part of his life, told me—erv, things were going soooo good and now, all of a sudden, my life is no tulips and roses let me tell ya!  Uffda uffda!

I respected this checkout gal.  I did because she was real.  She was not a phony.  She didn’t just perform in pretending everything was ok.  She was not a DuaneTheWorm who is always putting on a show; a real phony who will do anything to get attention. Abraham Lincoln said—You can fool some of the folks all the time all the folks some of the time, but you can’t fool all the folks all the time. Generally, folks see through phonies at some point in time, my opinion, at least most of the folks can. Here's the deal folks! Don’t be a phony.  Be real! Or I guess you can be a fake.  I guess that is up to each of us.  It's our decision but decisions have consequences as my late friend, Paul, would say, and guess who gets to make the decisions.

I enjoy going for my jog/walk sometimes when the sun is just coming up.  I always think of the song that goes something like this—when the sun gilds the sky, My heart awaking cries… (i.e. gilds meaning to move smoothly and continuously along, as if without effort or resistance). The other morning, we sang that song at church.  I have always liked that song (i.e. it stimulates me). There is something special about sunrises to many folks.  Probably maybe different things to different folks; I don’t know.  And the end of the part of the song after when the sun gilds the sky, My heart awaking cry is: May Jesus Christ be praised!  That makes me also feel soooo good.  I admit it. For me it’s the nitty gritty! Uffda uffda! Probably that song affects different folks differently as well (i.e. it has nuttin to do with politics or how much money you have folks, my opinion). The sunrise to me is like God is buying votes!

Okay folks, here is an opportunity for you.  Very simple. Tell me how you feel.  Really, how do you feel? There must be thousands and maybe thousands and thousands of different feelings each of us might have. Soooo what is your feeling right now.  Be real and send me a response telling me how you feel.  Use the comment at the bottom of the blog (i.e. just click on it—very easy to do). It will only be sent to me. Sign your name or be anonymous (i.e. your email address will not be shown to me or anyone).  Your response will be private and never be repeated or mentioned.  Soooo what is your feeling right now? You may express it in one word or a paragraph.  It’s an opportunity!

Have a FUN day my friends unless you have other plans. (-:

erv

MyFriendJean said--You can take the day off, but you can't put it back.