processing information and thoughts

I am thinking of a friend who isn’t happy. I have said many times, and it is very obvious to me, that woman are much prettier when they are happy. To me that is a no brainer. It’s like day and night difference. They can put on makeup or buy a new outfit, but it still shows. It’s not rocket science. For a man it is the same, men have a hard face when they are not happy. My opinion, if folks are unhappy for a very long time, they will start to look old. I read in the Book about a cure for this, yes, I have. It is:  Wisdom (i.e. that is heavenly wisdom and not earthly wisdom) brightens a person’s face and changes its hard appearance. Take some time to process and reflect on that will ya.

When we analyze and process the correct information, we understand our situation much better than when we don’t. My opinion. I guess we have to get the correct information first to process it. Now that is a big project for all of us. It seems like many times we don’t want to know the correct information. JoeBlow says—It’s a lot easier to see other’s problems and weaknesses than our own! Maybe we can’t correct ourselves until we do that and then we still might not be able to correct it. Some folks have told me how professional counseling has really helped them. Maybe the problems we have are in our heads and maybe we need help from others to process the situation!

I was hitting golf balls at the course the other day. I said to a couple of old guys who were playing—how’s it going today—ok, but we are a couple of old hackers, but it beats sitting on the couch watching TV!!!

I don’t want to be a pretender. Pretenders are hard for me to be around. They are what a friend calls them, a black cloud. Violet Stillwater says--erv, be careful here; process this thought first. Maybe it’s better that you do not talk about it. Ok, I’m just venting here. I know, I know! I express my thoughts and frustrations on paper many times and then after a day or two, I throw the paper away. It seems therapeutic for me! 

We observed that part of our lawn (i.e. an area of about 12 inches) where the sprinkles don’t sprinkle the grass, that the grass is brown. Yakima only gets 8 inches of rain a year. If the lawn doesn’t get water, it just won’t grow and be green (i.e. that is fact). We adjusted the sprinklers soooo it got watered and wow did that make a difference. Bingo! Now that is a good analogy for my mind and soul, I think!

MissPerfect says--I read that one thing about AI is that it can reprogramed to not make the same mistake again; I wish I could program myself to not make the same mistake over and over and over again! If anyone is in an unhappy relationship and wants it to change, ask or observe folks who have long, happy relationships. Don’t ask folks who always have problems in relationships. The same way about personal money management. But if a person doesn’t want to take critical criticism, and change, it will be the same-o same-o. It is a proven fact. We gotta process the facts! Maybe there are reasons why folks don’t want to change (i.e. keep hitting their heads against the wall)! ItchieBitchie says--If we do the same old unsuccessful things that we did the last 10 years the next 10 years, why in the world should we expect anything to change! SusieQ says--I'm getting help; I’m on the phone with the fire department—what did they say—I don’t know; I’m waiting for them to stop laughing!

The old saying is:  There is two ways of learning it, the easy way and the hard way (e.g. we are told we need to exercise, and we do it and the hard way is we have a health condition, and we learn it). We process information differently now don’t we. Or maybe we process it the same way but react to it differently (i.e. take a different course of action). My Daddy, Chester, would say to me, erv, “Everyone has problems, it’s just that some handle them differently.”

Ok, how do we learn to make good decisions? It appears that some folks make better decisions than others. People’s decision processes must be different. If soooo, how does a person develop a good decision making process. Yes, we can research and use the basic guiding principles for effective decision making but even then, people process them differently and it seems we always don’t follow them the same. Soooo it appears to me, we really do need to sit down and really analyze our own multisided decision-making process. Sooooo I think we all need help. It appears that if we seek help and take it, we can make better decisions. Soooo then, we need to decide where we are going to get our help! OneSmatPerson says—And there is the problem, many folks won’t seek help!

Reflect and debrief and process past events and then go forward seems to be a good thing, my opinion RickyRick says—"A lot of people don’t want to forgive, because they think if they forgive people, then they’ve got to trust them again. No. That’s a whole different issue! Trust has to be earned. In a relationship where a person is dealing with a major problem that has harmed their family, they may ask, ‘Will you forgive me?’ Yes, we will forgive them. ‘Can we go back to the way it was?’ No. That’s not at all what we do. You move forward, but things must be different. Forgiveness and the restoration of a relationship are not the same thing.” BUT forgiveness feels good! At least to me it does. BUT remember, I’m just a little ol' farm boy from a mile and a quarter south of Roseland, MN!

Process our mind! CoachB says—” We got to have a new mindset to go forward. Quit trying to change the stuff out there but instead change the stuff in our heads, hearts and souls.” I agree with CoachB. I, along with the encouragement of Jeanne, am in the process of changing my mindset of a certain person. They are not going to change but maybe I can change and treat them differently. What do you think? That is what I thought! BUT I tell you what folks, it ain’t easy! I have a thick head and a hard heart at times! Oh, yes!

But here is the bottom line, the real fact (i.e. the conclusion of the matter)! Have you ever tried to help someone who doesn’t want your help or want to change? Someone who really doesn’t want to change or don't see the need to change. How did it go? It is as simple as that! As I read in a novel I'm reading--But my guess is it ain't going to happen! Abraham Lincoln said--Remember, human action can be modified to some extent, but human nature can not be changed.

Some folks just plain jump to a conclusion and overreact without processing the information or the source. Many folks would say that some folks use no common sense (i.e. they are very radical in their reactions). C’mon, it sure appears it’s easy to get some folks excited real fast; pull their chain and they go ballistic (i.e. easy sale no matter what they are being sold). Did I get you excited when you read this “It’s Saturday?” Kaboom! Did I get your dandruff up?

Have a FUN day my friends unless you have other plans. (-:

erv

MyDeceasedFriendJean said--There are no shortcuts to any place worth going.