June 23, 2018

tell it like it is or not

ItchieBitchie says—My obnoxious statement is not a reflection of who I really am or of my values. I was sun-stroked after a long day of windsurfing and downing a fifth of Jack. Ya right ItchieBitchie, ya right!

Should you tell it like it is or sugar coat it? A woman and her 12-year-old son were riding in a taxi in Detroit. It was raining, and all the prostitutes were standing under awnings. "Mom," said the boy, "what are all those women doing?" "They're waiting for their husbands to get off work," she replied. The taxi driver turns around and says, "Come on lady, why don't you tell him the truth?  They're hookers, boy! They have sex with men for money." The little boy's eyes get wide and he says, "Is that true Mom?" His mother, glaring hard at the driver, answers "Yes." After a few minutes, the kid asks, "Mom, if those women have babies, what happens to them?" She said, "Most of them become taxi drivers."

I have a friend who has halitosis (i.e. I don’t like them breathing down my neck but it's worse when they breath in my face) but they probably don’t know it.  Should someone tell them “what’s going on” or not?  I would guess it affects their relations with others as well.  It could be easily corrected, and it might really affect the rest of their life.  Someday they might be very thankful someone would tell them that their breath is really bad!  BUT I don’t know if it will be me!!!!! Probably not!  I will just back up a step!  Ouchy ouchy!

A friend suggested I read Shoe Dog by Phil Knight; he was the founder of Nike.  I didn’t think I would like it; I thought it would be just another egotistical person telling me how great he is.  I really liked it.  It was real and about life (i.e. it appears that he tells it like it is).  I asked a friend why he thought folks like it soooo much—he said—I assume everyone knows the story and knows the brand.  It is sorta kinda the American dream.  I suggest that you give it a read.  It is #1 New York Times Best Seller and also a 5 star on Amazon (i.e. what ever that means). 

I had a person tell me that he was working.  Usually when a person tells others they are working, they think that the other folks don’t think they are working and they are probably right.  When folks tell others they are working, they are maybe trying to convince others and themselves that they are actually working.  And when folks tell others they are working, it almost solidifies it that they are not working (i.e. trying to convince others that they are working).  ItchieBitchie says—The more they talk, the funnier it becomes; the other folks are even more certain that the person isn’t working. It is what it is! 

I read this while eating my oatmeal with half a banana on it-- “There is nothing wrong with bountiful crops or having more than one barn could hold. It all is a gift of God, who makes the sun shine and the rain fall, producing the abundant harvest. Farmers work long hours planting, harvesting, and storing into barns. Greed is something else. It’s been called the affliction of the affluent—an abundance of money, property, and material goods. God is not stingy. He created a world with “enough for everyone’s needs, but not for everyone’s greed” (Gandhi).

Chic says--In Dante’s Inferno (i.e. I never read it soooo I did—something new and different--can;t say I enjoyed it) of judgment, the greedy are boiled alive in molten gold. It’s their punishment for hoarding or spending their riches selfishly. Mercy gives. Greed grabs. It’s never satisfied. Jesus says to us, “Beware of covetousness”! —Chic Broersma ~ BUT if you don’t believe in Jesus but you believe in your neighbor GreedBallJoe, well then, you need to get out there and spend all your life making more!  More is better.  WorldC;lassLarry says—There is nuttin wrong with money (i.e. money is good), but it’s how we manage it! Many times I really wonder if I manage it correctly; I really do. It’s a struggle for me.   JoeBlow says—Money is problematic; toooo little causes problems and toooo much causes problems; but how do you know the right amount and to get to that point (i.e. money can be a trap folks)?

Maybe take this with a pinch of salt! CadillacJack asks—Can a person be tooooo genuine?  Is it better to spin the truth to make it fit the majority of the folks regardless if it is marginally true (i.e. don’t put folks on the line)?  It appears to me, folks with big positions and maybe big egos can spin the story and get by with it.  Maybe.  Also, folks who, supposedly think they are important (e.g. Phil Michelson) can do what they want and say what they want and expect folks to just accept it.  Some folks think he showed disrespect.  Does it make a difference who you are as to the results are? Are the results different for different folks? It is what it is.

I know a guy who is as useless as tits on a boar (i.e. that is a MN farmers’ expression that I learned as a little old farm boy a mile and fourth south of Roseland, MN).  Dean, a friend since we were in diapers, sent me this—The old farmstead that you grew up in is for sale again.  It looks really bad.  I walked through the house and barn; quite a mess.  Then I get this message from TheZenker (i.e. a Daunbe High classmate) -- On my way to Willmar I saw a for sale sign on your old home farm house. The place looks very overgrown, you can barely see the house and barn. But, it’s still a mile and a quarter south of Roseland. They tell it like it is. 

Oh ya, I stood up for my friend Dean and his wife Pat 50 years ago.  Dean told me that the naysayers said their marriage would never last. I kidded them about that on their 50 anniversary and his response was—we showed them!

I’m telling you the way it is.  It feels better to me.  Seems like honesty works best for me.  ANYWAY, early this spring I wrote that our daughter, Heather, was going to run in the Chicago Marathon this fall for the Team Alzheimer’s and she and her husband, James, were raising money for the charity.  Some of you gave to her.  I, Heather and James, were just overwhelmed of your generosity (i.e. you are good folks with good hearts—very touching).  In 2016 Arlene and I (along with family and friends) did the Walk to End Alzheimer’s in Des Moines and it was a GREAT experience. We are going to do it again this year (Team Mellema). I think it is pretty neat that we can do this in honor of Arlene. If any of you would like to walk with us, that would be fun. Just let me know and I can send you the link.  We plan to push Arlene on the walk again (i.e. my biggest concern is a bathroom that will work for us). Such is life.

We were in a small group church setting (i.e. having a good time).  One couple told us that they have been married for 22 years (i.e. both marriages are their second marriages from divorces).  They said it took a couple of years before they called each other by the correct names; they called each other Harry and Rosie (i.e. the names of their ex-spouses).  What a hoot! They told it like it was. 

John (i.e. anyone can be a John), a friend of friends, was up here along with his wife, visiting our friends.  We played pickleball with him (i.e. an accomplished player and instructor).  I said to him—nice shot!  He said—I will teach it to you, erv for nine ninety-nine!  He gave us a clinic that evening.  I learned and relearned some things about technique, philosophy, shots, mechanics, positions.  He showed me how to hit a cut shot that I want to learn (i.e. he suggested I change my grip to a continental grip from my eastern grip).  I am going to work on it.  I like to learn something new.  Basically, John told us—If anyone wants to get better, they must learn to play the game right, learn proper techniques, practice the shots time after time after time so the shots can be made consistently without the thought of execution. He told it like it is!  SusieQ says--A player can’t get better practicing doing it wrong.  Sounds much like life folks.  Oh, by the way, he didn’t charge us nine ninety-nine. ha ha I really enjoyed John and Phyliss.  Seem to be real folks with good hearts.

MissPerfect says in reply to ItcheiBitchie’s opening remark—Au contraire.  ItchieBitchie’s statement was probably an exact reflection of who he is and how he speaks to those who agree with him.  Alcohol, Ambien and a giant ego probably acted more like truth serum (i.e. they let him tell it like it is; at least in his head!).

Have a FUN day my friends unless you have other plans. (-:

erv

MyFreindJean says—A torn jacket is soon mended, but hard words bruise the heart of a child. ~ Longfellow

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